Overcoming Fear

Let’s start by asking ourselves one simple question. What is fear and how does it keep us from living our spectacular lives?! Fear is an emotion we feel when there is a threat of danger, harm or pain. Fear is evolutionarily ingrained in our DNA and was once quite a useful and helpful tool for us to fend off the dangers that once were, many years ago. But now as our threat for danger decreases, our mind plays tricks on us. We perceive danger in different ways such as talking to a stranger… or sitting an exam. There is no actual danger to our lives here, yet we perceive them as such. And if we were to go anywhere near a situation similar to that, it would feel life threatening. However, there is hope for us yet!!!

The first step to overcoming fear is awareness. Becoming aware of what sparks our fears is pivotal in allowing ourselves the time to release them. So what are you afraid of? And what made you so afraid of it? Can you recall any situations in your life which strengthened your fears? Once you have acknowledged where it comes from and why it is so prominent, we can start to change the story behind the fears. We can begin to go beyond the fears, for that is where our true powers lie! It is beautifully freeing to be able to release the hold that fear has on us. And that does not mean that fear will be gone forever. No, we will still feel it, however we will feel it like any other emotion that comes our way. And we will allow it to pass naturally instead of storing the fear in our bodies and letting them build and fester.

In order to over come fear, we have to learn how to sit with discomfort. Allow yourself to feel all of it. And then with love, we release it. We breathe into the fear, into the feelings and as we breathe out we feel it being released from our bodies. Creating space for calm to take its place. Somewhere along the line, almost all of us have learned that pain, fear etc are emotions that we want to avoid, not feel. But what we have to realise is that there has to be a balance of both the good and the so called ‘bad’ emotion. In my opinion there is no such thing as bad emotions. I feel, we have to experience the bad to really feel the good. They both go hand in hand. SO let’s switch our perception on fear as being a bad emotion. Let’s look at it as a lesson that we are being called to learn from. Fear often pops up when we need to break free from certain barriers that have been created around us. We are being called to become aware of these barriers and either go through them or climb over them! Either way, we are moving past them and moving forwards with our lives. Not giving the fear any power and allowing ourselves to reach our full potential. Allowing this fear to teach us to go beyond it and expand rather than staying within it and constricting.

For example, fear of loss can be a tough one to face. We get comfortable in our lives, and the people that are around us. We tend to get overly attached to them and start to cling on to them. It takes great courage to find the strength within ourselves to be able to consciously learn to detach from the people that we are afraid of losing and fill that space with freedom. To say “I release this unhealthy need for attachment that I hold for you and replace it with love and freedom” You have to find it within yourself to accept that nothing is certain in life, try to find the beauty in that, and come home to the fact that you live every moment to the fullest, don’t take anything for granted, and cherish all that you have now in this present moment. For you don’t know how long you will have it. Find the strength within yourself to know that even if you lost what or who you cherish most in the world, you WILL rise up again. You WILL move forward and you WILL keep going, expand, learn and grow.

Every year a tree will start to shed their leaves come autumn as they are stripped bare in the wet and cold. It takes tremendous courage, strength and bravery, and yet every year their leaves fall. However, come spring we see magic appear as the tiny leaves start to sprout and new growth emerges in all its beauty and wonder. These majestic trees start to blossom and bloom once again! Swaying in the wind, with an array of gorgeous colours shining bright! And once again, it all comes down to perspective and choice. You can choose to focus on your leaves being striped bare leaving you cold, wet and alone… OR you could understand that it is a vital part of experiencing the life that we lead. That in order to experience the magic, we need to strip ourselves bare sometimes, feel what we need to feel… and then rebuild our glorious selves into beautiful beings of love and light! It is a wonderful process if only we don’t focus on the difficult and focus on the wondrous outcome.

So focus on the good and know that you cannot have the good without a little bit of the bad. Change your perspective on the bad! It does not have to be negative, switch it around! Get creative and have fun through all your experiences, for that is what it means to truly be alive!

He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life

Ralph Waldo Emerson

With immense love, I wish you the warmest of wishes!