Conscious Control

Control, the art of influencing a course of events, or your behaviour. Most of us humans find comfort and security in control. The idea of knowing that things are going to go a certain way. We like structure and routine. Because without that, where is our discipline and purpose? We can control how we choose to live our lives, our habits, our relationships and our mood. However what about the things that we cannot control? Such as life and death, the weather, a natural calamity etc. These are far from our control, and if you give it enough thought, it can seem quite scary to some of us.

There is no way to control some things. No matter how much we try, how much effort we put into trying, it is out of our control. We may feel lost, helpless or alone due to this. But when we start to accept that some things are out of our control… a certain sense of freedom sets in. A sort of relief. You can let go, live in the present moment. For right now… all is well and I am very hopeful that it continues to be. That is what we CAN do. We can choose how we respond to situations beyond our control. To trust and have faith that no matter what, I will rise, I will grow and I will shine!

So let go of what you cannot control. See the beauty in it. Yes, anything can happen and perhaps we could find the beauty in knowing that too. The possibilities, new opportunities, life! Focus on the now and trust that you can get through anything and everything that comes your way. Stand strong and find the courage and bravery within yourself to accept this and just be. Be your best self. The version of you that feels good. That feels alive! Because some of life’s struggles are much easier to face when you feel good, when you embody your truest nature.

Letting go of control is hard. Especially with regard to things that you are very strongly and emotionally attached to. But it helps to know that… whatever happens is beyond my control. I hope for the best. And I know that what is meant to be, will be. Where there is loss, gain shortly follows. Allow yourself the space and time to feel this, to find a sense of freedom in it. To allow yourself a moment to take yourself out of the picture and realise that sometimes, it is not about us at all. To say, this is beyond my control and a part of the grand scheme of things, and I accept it and welcome it in with love! Don’t be afraid of change. We often get stuck in our ways, but change offers us growth to shine brighter than we ever have before! We get to experience more love, more beauty, more joy and more excitement!

Instead of trying to control the uncontrollable, we can redirect all that energy into things that we can control. Set healthy habits for yourself. What am I putting into my body and is it healthy? How is my sleep schedule and do I need to adjust it? Are my relationships healthy and what am I going to do about them? We can choose to control the little things, like what we wear today or what book to read tomorrow. Find joy in these things. Allow life to flow through you and have faith in yourself and your abilities. If push comes to shove and you are faced with a difficult situation, you CAN and WILL get through it. You can look back and think to yourself “I’m glad that that happened, for if I hadn’t gone through it, I wouldn’t have all that I have now or be where I am today”.

So control the things that you know you have control over, and begin to let go of what you cannot control. Know that it is not your job nor your responsibility to control those things. Allow yourself some time and be gentle with yourself too. Nurture yourself as a loving mother would do for their child. Be patient with yourself, allow yourself a safe space to really feel through all the emotions that come your way and gently move through them. Accept the ever flowing changes and choose to see the beauty in them!

I wish you well and hope that you can find the beauty and freedom in our ever winding, ever flowing and ever loving unique journeys!

To New Beginnings!

Oleksandr Tereshchuk

As the famous quote goes “When one door closes, another door opens”. The possibilities, the change, the ability to really create something truly magnificent. Bringing in a new chapter to your life, what a grand celebration! New beginnings could be a chance to reflect on past choices/experiences and learn from them. To maybe do things differently, it could be creating healthier habits, or finding the courage to go after your dreams. It could even mean letting go of what holds you back so that you can finally reach your potential. The possibilities are endless.

A new beginning can look like a brand new day, the start of a new week and the excitement of a new year. Monday’s are commonly known to be dreaded but why? Why are Monday’s not celebrated and cherished?! For we are being blessed with yet another glorious week on this earth, in the ever so unique and lovely lives that we lead. So let’s take the time to cherish a Monday for a brand new start to what could be a great week. Monday’s could be a time to set goals, to ask for what you want to receive from the day all the days following.

As a new year approaches, we are all invited to come together in celebration. But are we consciously aware of what we are celebrating? Yes, we are celebrating the bringing in of a new year, but why not dig a little deeper? Why not take a little time for some reflection. To be thankful for all that this year has brought us. All your successes and most importantly your failures and how you really managed to overcome them. How did you change this year? What were some of your best memories, and what do you want to leave behind? How are you being called to step into the new year as the best and brightest version of yourself that you can possibly be? Dream big!

New beginnings are not just about the start to a new weak… or a new year for that matter. It could be the sprouting of a new relationship, or the end to something that you have been longing to release and move forward from. It could mean freedom from what holds you down. It could mean making a choice to start fresh. To let go of what holds you down and to reach for the stars with all that you have to offer. New beginnings are a beautiful wonder. If we only welcomed in change and let go of what is meant to pass, we can truly feel the grandness of a new beginning.

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As daunting as they may sometimes seem, new beginnings can bring about such growth in oneself that is quite a marvel to see. It could be a start to an entirely new and exciting chapter of your life, bringing in new opportunities, a miracle or two and fabulous learning curves. I once read that “life is the messy bits”, I now understand what that means. In order to reach these fabulous new beginnings, we must overcome what troubles us. To be able to release the troubles and close the door on them. Only then can we truly open a brand new door to a room that is filled with magic.

Resistance creates a kind of chaos within us. Allow life to move with the ebb and flow of change. We must let go and flow. Learn and grow! When we resist the closing of the old, of what no longer serves us… we are choosing to remain stagnant in an ever flowing world. We resist the beauty and actually close the door on the lovely new beginnings that await us. If only someone were there to guide us and show us what we were missing out on by choosing to stay in a place which was meant to pass by naturally. To welcome in the glorious new and step in with love. But let me tell you, we are our own best guides. No one can guide you as well as you can guide yourself. Only we know what feels good to us and what doesn’t. What feels good IS good. And what doesn’t feel good, what causes resistance within you… well maybe it is calling on you to reflect on it, how does it make you feel? Do you want to continue feeling this way? Are you ready to make the changes to step out of the old and step into to grand new? It is up to you! Allow the beauty in and allow what no longer serves to pass by. Wish it well and on it’s way.

Wishing everyone a beautiful new year, one that brings ease and flow, with beauty and love and most of all, a year where we really learn to shine in our own authentic and unique way! 🙂

Living Through The Seasons

Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. Seasons bring about change, they bring about new beginnings and more often that not they bring about an immense amount of growth! As the seasons change, if we allow ourselves, we can too! How glorious would it be to grow with spring, to blossom with summer, to let go with autumn and to pause and reflect with winter.

No flower blossoms through the year, so why are we so hard on ourselves when we are not at our highest throughout the year? It is ok to take your time. To cherish the lows as much as the highs. We are all growing and learning and it makes everything a lot easier when we are gentle with ourselves. Giving ourselves time to move through the obstacles and the changes we face.


The Resilience Of Nature

An observation that I made a few weeks ago as I was observing a wildflower was how truly resilient nature is and how much we can learn from it! I am in awe and hope to one day learn to be as one with nature as I could possibly be. Flowers, plants, shrubs, trees and many more face harsh winds, heavy rains, predators and so on, and yet through it ALL they stand tall and shine their bright light for us to bask in. The trees offer us shelter from the rain, the flowers brings us joy and fill our hearts with love, the plants give us something to nurture in our homes and the shrubs may leave our gardens feeling a little less empty! All in all, nature is a marvellous wonder and I feel it is something to look up to. To seek strength from, to gain courage from and to know that if nature can be so brave as to dance in the harshest of storms, then so can I!!


Spring

Spring is a glorious time to cherish. New leaves sprouting, the smell of fresh growth in the air and the insects out and about, buzzing with joy over the exciting flowers beginning to bud. Spring is not only a magical time for nature. I like to think that we all have a bit of nature within us! So just like the trees that grow new leaves, we to grow and expand within ourselves. Spring is a beautiful time to set goals, get excited about where you are headed and open your heart to endless possibilities! It is a time to nurture yourself, care for yourself, just as you would a flower bud. As for when summer comes, we have nourished our beautiful bud so much so it blossoms and opens into a lovely flower!


Summer

As the sun shines bright, we learn to shine bright within ourselves too! To feed our inner flower some much needed nourishment and to really embody the essence of it and ourselves for that matter. To blossom and bloom with each step you take. Feel connected with nature as it surrounds you, embodies you and soothes you. As your inner flower blooms, really cherish it.


Autumn

The time for letting go. For some letting go is easy… and for others it can be painstakingly difficult. Yet it is a vital part of the flow of nature. Every year as autumn arrives, trees start to shed. The leaves are not meant to stay forever. Their time naturally comes to an end and they gracefully fall. This can be an important lesson that we can learn from nature. Sometimes, certain things that have outlived their stay in our lives are meant to be let go off. And only when we resist these changes, is when we start to struggle. So find it within yourself to let go. See the beauty in it. It is inevitable and know that come spring, you will have new growth, and welcome in something far greater, far more exciting and fulfilling into your life! So let go now and know that better days are ahead of you.


Winter

With winter comes a time to slow down. To pause for a minute and reflect on the year that is now coming to an end. Reflect on the growth, on the change, on successes and the failures. Slow down and take time for yourself. Winter leaves trees open and exposed and they are stripped of their leaves. They go into a state of hibernation in order to take care of themselves. To heal and to prepare for spring! So how can you gain closure from this year and plan for the next year?


I wish you all a lovely adventure through the seasons. May you breeze through the sunshine, the rain, and stop to admire the roses along the way. All my love and the warmest of wishes!