Making Mistakes, Dealing With Judgement And Shining On.

Sometimes it’s the right decisions that don’t feel so good. But that doesn’t mean that they are not right. Often are goal is to feel good, but are we striving for feeling good in the long term or short term? Striving for feeling good in the long term means that sometimes, you have to make the hard decisions. You have to do the things that don’t feel so good in the short term. Because you know where you want to be and that means letting go of certain beliefs, habits, relationships along the way that are just not serving your best and highest good any longer. It means letting go and flowing with change. Moving forward even if that feels totally out of your comfort zone. Just let go and flow. 

But what about the guilt of putting yourself first? What about the feeling of “am I making the right decision?” “What will they think of me?” that creeps in. The truth is… everyone is focussed on their own lives and rightfully so! It’s not about what she thinks or how they will judge your decisions. It’s about what feels right to you. It’s about what you need and about where you want to go most importantly. Just because your actions make someone else feel uncomfortable… does not mean that you have done something wrong. As long as you live your life with good intentions, whatever they feel is theirs to feel. You cannot neglect your needs or yourself for that matter. You cannot dim your light in order to make someone else feel better about themselves. Shine anyway! In the hopes that they feel inspired to shine too! And if not… then you respect that and move on. But it is not your job to make other people happy. It is not your job to figure out what they think about you and whether or not that is good or bad. Just live your life. Do the best you can do and know that that is enough.

Judgement is the bane of almost everything. Yes, it is human nature to judge but must we be so critical or so quick to make a judgement itself? Yes, give people the benefit of the doubt, but also keep in mind your self worth, values and respect. If someone does not value you, then respectfully pull away. There is no need for judgement. “I am thankful for this situation, for showing what is not meant for me”. Not everyone is meant for you and you are not meant for everyone and that is okay!

When we start to move beyond judgement, we find that ego has no place in our relationships. That life really is quite simple! It’s not about what they think of you, or why they did what they did. That is none of our business and quite frankly going over all the possibilities will leave us in a mess unless you openly ask them. So let go, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and what you could maybe do differently in similar situations that come up in the future. Because that is life! To learn from your experiences, from your successes and failures.

We are going to make mistakes ALL the time! It’s time to start accepting that. To start loving that part of ourselves that are not perfect. To be ok with making mistakes. Because at the end of the day we are all human. A little bit of forgiveness can go a long long way. Especially when that forgiveness comes from within. So forgive yourself for the mistakes. Learn from them! Allow them in, to teach us, to guide us to where we are meant to be! And it is ok to make mistakes in front of others. It does not matter what they think of it. As long as you accept it, love yourself for making the mistake, learn from it, grow immensely and then beautifully move on and try your best to do better next time.

For if it were not for that mistake, I would not have learned what I learned. And without that life lesson, I would not be where I am today. So thank you for allowing me to make that mistake, in a safe and gentle environment. Thank you for what came of it and thank you for the kindness I receive every single day 🙂