Growth 🌱

Growth and healing go hand in hand. The thing about growth is that it’s not always easy. Most of the time its messy, overwhelming, heartbreaking and incredibly transforming. But that’s what makes it growth. Because it has the ability to push you so far out of your comfort zone that whichever direction you go, you are well and truly growing and most importantly expanding! It takes alot of strength and courage to be able to be faced with a choice between staying within your comfort zone… or going the path of growth and choosing the latter.

Growth does not always look like picking up the pieces and putting yourself back together. Sometimes growth is shattering your whole being in order to rebuild yourself into the newest and truest version of you, you could be.

And for all those that think or feel like they are alone on their journey, just know that you are not the only ones! Sometimes we are made to go through certain experiences on our own, we are put in situations where we are forced to go inwards rather than to seek external help. What we don’t realise is that we all have the answers that we are seeking within ourselves. And the path of loneliness sometimes has to be taken in order to become aware of the answers that lie within us. To be focussed on ourselves enough to notice what it is that we are meant to learn and how to build ourselves back up!

Uncomfortable situations are often uncomfortable because they have hit a soft spot within us that makes us feel that certain sense of discomfort. Growth teaches us strength! It teaches us resilience and to get back up and keep going. It allows ourselves to build the mental, physical and especially emotional stamina to be able to go through life with ease and flow, rather than pain and struggle. What we are being made to re-learn or re-evaluate is that we do not have to learn through struggle. It is a choice most of the time. And most of the time we choose to struggle because that is what we know and what we have been taught. But what if a simple change in our perception could allow us to flow through life with a certain sense of ease and comfort? Why not?! Who says we need to struggle. It all comes down to the way you look at life. A situation is a situation. It is ultimately our choice how we choose to react or respond to it. So we have a choice here. Either feel a negative emotion… or a positive one! This skill takes some practice, but oh how wonderful would it be to go through all of life’s many obstacles and experiences with ease? That is just the icing on the cake!

So growth. It all comes down to choice! Choose growth. Choose to flow through your growth with ease. Be open to the changes, for change is ALWAYS positive… even when it feels uncomfortable at the time. Change is what stimulates the growth. If we were to stay stuck, there would come a point where you may feel either suffocated or wanting to burst. So you could choose to change now, or wait for that bursting feeling. Either way change and growth are inevitable. So might as well go along with it, rather than resist. Because resistance is quite frankly a waste of time. Yes, sometimes resistance teaches us how to let go of control, but if we can become aware of the resistance within us, we can start to work on it. Work on creating more of a flow, allowing the blocks within us to fade away, piece by piece.

And growth does not always have to mean picking up a healthy routine or going to all your yoga classes. Sometimes growth is in the not eating healthy, not sleeping early and not taking care of ourselves. Sometimes it takes reaching a certain point to get to a space where the realisations come tumbling in and the love can flow through you effortlessly so that you can pick yourself up.

So however it goes, just know that you are doing the best you can do! Remind yourself of your courage and strength. Offer the feelings of pride and accomplishment for yourself. Because you are on a great path of healing. One few choose to take. Honour it, don’t judge it and most importantly, allow it.

Lots and lots of Love ❤

Finding Direction ➢

With life’s ever flowing and winding ways, it can be hard to find consistent direction at times. You are either being pulled in once direction or completely yanked out of another. It can be hard to flow with the change and to adapt to the given circumstances or changes in your environment that you didn’t plan for. But hey, we are resilient beings that were made for this. Through it all, we are adaptable creatures born to survive and then thrive!

At some stage in life I think almost all of us have felt that niggling feeling of being lost. Not knowing where to go, or being somewhere and not knowing or having an end or goal in sight. How long can it go on for and what must we do about it? First ask yourself… “What do I really want?” then the following question “What can I do to get myself there?” And each and every day you create consistent steps in getting there. Baby steps are the best steps to take, so that you can really solidify your change and progress.

Sometimes, as you stray further and further from yourself you can end up very lost. Straying from yourself could look like staying in a job or relationship that is not right for you, or does not allow your true nature to shine through. It almost feels like your living on autopilot mode, when in fact you should be in the driver’s seat of your life. Making conscious decisions for how you want your life to be, and how to get there! Coming back to yourself is direction in itself. It is the going inwards that allows one to get to know themselves so that they can unleash their true and unique authenticity! Finding their passions and following their dreams in order to learn and grow best!

And direction… as mentioned above does not need to be linear. It could be going/looking backward to heal your past, straying from your path in order to learn vital life lessons that would eventually bring you back, or it could be looking up, preparing for the amazing future in store for you! So living with direction does not have to be the rigid straight line that many of us often think of. You can get creative with it and allow yourself a few detours as well. Because detours are obstacle in the right direction. So create your own definition of what direction means to you and how you can find motivation through that.

Direction intermingled with emotion is a great driving force in achieving and going after your dreams. To find what you love, what you dream of… your passion in life and to align you actions, goals and intentions in accordance is a lovely act! One, few of us think to do and often settle for less. Why do we settle for less when we can find true happiness in doing what we love to do? Yes, it may be out of the general norm and a little bit of a risk but would that not be entirely worth it? To seek true and lifelong happiness right down to your roots. Now that, no amount of money can buy.

So allow yourself to be pulled in different directions, see where they all lead you. My guess is that they lead to just where you need to go, on the path to finding true beauty and magic! Trust the guidance and follow the direction!

Going Inwards 🌀

The path to success lies in the path to going within yourself. To heal every inch of yourself and every cell in your being. To learn to love yourself, so that you can truly love others. When you go inwards, you are committing to yourself. You are valuing and respecting yourself enough to take valuable time and investing it in you. And as you start to do that, you reap the rewards! 

Going inwards can look like journalling your thoughts and feelings each day, getting to know yourself, your likes and dislike, the parts of you that you are proud off and the parts of you that you would like to improve on. 

To some going inwards could mean coming out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there, only to find more of yourself. Challenging yourself, and telling yourself that the discomfort of not doing it so far greater than the discomfort of actually doing it. However, for others it may look like sitting in silence, spending time with yourself to really get to know your true self without the added layers.

Going inwards means acknowledging where you are on your journey, whilst creating space for who you want to become. Working on yourself each and every day. Because instead of committing to a job, you are committing to yourself. And in doing so, you may just attract your dream job! A job that ticks all the boxes, that opens some really wonderful doors for you and a life that you wake up to with a smile each and every day! 

So why not go within? So many of us seek external validation, reassurance, love, happiness. The idea is to find it within ourselves. Learn to validate ourselves. To be accepting of each and every part of ourselves so that if someone else doesn’t like it, we aren’t as knocked down as we would have been. We wouldn’t change ourselves just to appease someone else. We can understand that we are not for everyone and not everyone is for us. To seek to reassure ourselves and love ourselves inside and out, because if you don’t love yourself, are you truly happy and satisfied? True happiness is found from within too. Take the time to befriend yourself. To be with yourself, laugh at your own jokes, read to yourself, dance alone, cook a delicious meal for yourself or even get dressed up for you. Because at the end of the day, no one is going to do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. Of course you will have loved ones and friends, and of course cherish them! But be alright with being by yourself, because that is where your true power lies! To say that I don’t need you in my life, but I would love  to have you in my life, and therefore it works! To be perfectly independent…together! 

So let’s really dive deep within ourselves. Get to know ourselves on a higher level. To figure out the parts of us that still need resolution, the parts that need to be acknowledged and the parts that need to be healed. To become aware is the very first step, and then you can work on either releasing what no longer serves you, or work on bettering yourself, FOR yourself! Because at the end of the day… it is you who you are living with. We spend most of our time with ourselves and so why not prioritise building a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves first? We are our own best guides. Let’s work on being a person who feels good about themselves, excited for each day and in alignment with our true essence. 

I look forward to hearing all your your journey’s to going inwards! Warmth and hugs always 🙂

Riding The Waves

Nolan Omura

Some say that venturing under the ocean is like entering an entirely new world. The beauty and magic that lies along the sea bed is quite and truly spectacular, yet so vast and unknown. What I would like to shed some light on in this little ramble is what is experienced on the surface of the ocean. The waves that flow ever so marvellously. The push and pull. Much like the waves that experience magnificent highs and lows, we do too.

As we float on the surface of the ocean, we begin to really embody the essence of flow. As the waves move upward, so do we. And as they ripple on down, we move with them. The challenge often occurs when we resist such sensation. The highs and the lows will most definitely come and go. That is what it is to be a wave, and that is what it is to be human. Dare I say… being a human and living a life on earth is an entirely courageous act. And we should be ever so gentle with ourselves for it. Because however fantastical it may be to experience the emotional highs, courageously welcoming in the lows are what make us so beautifully balanced and brave. For we are not afraid to feel discomfort. We are not afraid of hardship. We stand tall and flow with the waves. And that is when we truly learn what it is like to ride the waves. To live life as an exciting adventure. One so very enchanting.

A very important lesson that I recently had the opportunity to learn was that no matter how far behind we may think we have stumbled, we are still on the path moving forward. I have been very mislead by the phrase “one step forward, two steps back” over the years. I now realise that we are never going backwards. Always moving forwards. We may feel at times, as though we are moving backwards due to the low we are experiencing, or the feeling of “I’m back to square one”. But if it were not for the low, we would not have that extra boost to really bounce back and experience an even greater high. And that is the essence of growth. To expand. To become aware that no matter what you may feel or experience, you are ever moving beautifully forward. It may not be a straight line forward, there may be countless detours along the way, but even the detours are pushing us forward along a beautiful path of growth!

Breathing, just like waves is an ever expanding and contracting, a rising and falling. You get shallow breathing, and deep breathing, just as you do in the waters. And as you get choppy waters and calm/still waters, you get shortness of breathe as compared to still and relaxed breathing. Breathing is a magical practice, one that comes so easily to us, yet it is often taken for granted. Allowing our awareness to focus on the feeling of drawing breath in and out of our bodies. How it fills us up, and really keeps us alive! We could all be grateful that we have the ability to breathe, we can live without a lot of things… but could we live without our breathe? For if it were not for our breathe, we would not be roaming this earth. So let’s take a moment to really appreciate our breathe. Take notice of it, be mindful of it and start to expand our awareness on our breathe, the way we breathe through life’s up’s and down’s. How mastering our breathing can change the way we live our lives!

So let’s enjoy riding life’s many beautiful waves and really take a moment to notice the beauty of it all! Warm wishes always 🙂

Happiness… and where to find it!

Have you ever longed to be overwhelmingly happy? To go to bed excited for tomorrow and to wake up with a goofy grin on your face? Well you have come to the right place! Happiness begins and ends in the present moment. The illusion that a lot of us carry along with us is thinking that it will be found by either recalling past memories of happy times or thinking it will be found in the future. For example, by achieving your dream job, or going on that holiday that you have been longing for. Don’t get me wrong, those things are great! And of course they will make you feel good! But we are talking about true and long lasting happiness here. A kind of happiness that stems from within, that seeps into our bones, awakens every cell in our bodies and really brings us to life! One that doesn’t rely on the influence of our external environment. Now that… you can only find when you are living in the present moment.

If we don’t nourish ourselves in the present moment, how are we expected to flourish in our future?

Have a think about it. Really take the time to tap into yourself in the here and now. Connect with yourself. How are you feeling? What do you feel you are lacking? What is your body craving for that your mind is too stubborn to give it? What are a few things that you could do to come back to yourself and really ground yourself in the now? What makes you come alive? What allows you space and room to breath fresh! What brings you joy? And what makes you laugh? Try and do more of these things and trust me you will not be waiting for your next holiday or your next promotion to be happy. For as long as we search for long term happiness externally, we will not find it. Going inwards is the path that leads to being truly happy. So please please please search your unique self!

The brilliant thing is, that no matter how far you stray, you can ALWAYS come back and start anew. Yes, it may take more of an effort depending how far you actually venture from your true self, but it all starts within you. It starts with an intention to really do better for yourself. It comes down to a simple choice. Do I want to be happy right now? Most of us say yes, but do we really mean it? We need to commit ourselves to being happy, commit ourselves to the present moment. Choose happiness again and again and then really embody the essence of it.

See it as a habit that you’re building for yourself. It definitely takes a conscious effort to make bad habits. It takes an equal amount of effort to create healthy habits. Why not make happiness a lifestyle? So what makes you happy? What makes you excited about today, tomorrow, a week, a month or a year from now?! How are you being called to be happy?

For me personally, happiness begins when I have the time to reconnect with myself. We I am in tune and aligned with all parts of my being. When I take the time to take care of myself and treat myself as I would treat a loved one. And when I feel it lacking, I will often ask myself… What could I do right now, in this very moment that is going to uplift me? I wait for the answer to come to me and then get right on it! I absolutely love to cook, I love to get creative and I love to listen to the kind of music that makes each and every cell in my body come alive! These are a few simple tasks that give me joy throughout my day! It doesn’t have to become a major thing. If you could only take a few minutes out of your day, doing something for yourself… just because!

However… no matter what we do, sometimes our mood can tend to dip and it takes ALOT of self discipline or self love to pick ourselves up and do something that we know will make us feel better. I find that when I’m feeling down or unmotivated, exercise can be a brilliant tool to get your juices flowing! And it’s not like you have to run a marathon (amazing if you can!), all you have to do is around 10 minutes. Something to get your blood pumping. So that you can release all that stagnant energy in your body and create room for high vibes and some much needed love!

Another obstacle that I often face is focus. I sometimes find it hard to focus on just one task at hand. The all too familiar negative or worrying thought cycles come to life and I am too enraptured in the events playing out in my mind to focus on what I am actually trying to do, which is essentially being happy! So once again… it come down to choice. We are choosing to focus our attention off the thoughts that are not serving our highest good.

Mindfulness is a tool that most of us overlook, but do not underestimate the power of being mindful. I tell you, it changed my life for the better! Small practices of mindfulness every day can enhance our quality of life. Being aware of our daily duties such as brushing our teeth or making our bed can create such an awakening within ourselves. Hear the sound of the sheets rustling, touch the soft fabric against your fingertips, smell the fresh linen wafting up your nose, look at your clean freshly made bed with satisfaction and determination… for it will be a great great day! And sense your mouth watering for the delicious breakfast that awaits your system!!

So you see, happiness can be cultivated through everyday tasks, it just has to start from within yourself. It really is quite simple if you are willing to try!

I look forward to hearing about all of your journeys to happiness!!