Not Enough?

I think at some point in your lives, we have all felt like either we were not enough or that we were not doing enough with our lives. However how much is enough? Where do we draw that line? And how do we find a balance? When will we be enough and when will we feel satisfied with ourselves enough to say I love my work, what i’m doing and how much i’m doing. When did we learn to put pressure on ourselves to keep climbing that mountain and how long until we burn out? These are vital questions to ask yourself as in these answers you will be able to delve deep enough within yourself to learn to heal these parts of you that may feel a sense of inadequacy.

Feelings of inadequacy are not uncommon. It could be anything about ourselves. Our looks, clothes, personality, or what we feel we lack. And more often than not, we find ourselves comparing our own qualities to that of others, only leading us to feel even worse about ourselves. The thoughts that pop up could sound like “Why can’t I have what they have” “I would be so happy if I was like that/looked like that/dressed like that” “She is so pretty, why did I have to end up looking like this?” “This person is doing so much with his life and what do I have to show for mine?” This thought pattern doesn’t do anything but create feelings of longing, inadequacy and lack. The idea is not so much to compare, but to start to learn to accept who you are, how you look, how you dress and what you do. This can be quite tricky at times, but in the end you start to compare less and you find yourself leaning more towards gratitude. Gratitude for who you are, what you have, your accomplishments and the adventures you are yet to embark on!

A great exercise to get yourself out of comparing is to think of the bigger picture! Does this little comparison really matter in the grand scheme of things? In a week, month or year from now will this matter? So in a year from now when I remember this moment, what do I want to take from it? Do I want to remember feelings of inadequacy? Or do I want to remember feelings of empowerment? To say I thank this situation for teaching me that I am enough. I don’t need what others have. Instead I focus on my own journey, my own path in my life and strive to make it more fulfilling for myself. To do better for myself, not because I see someone else doing so, but to nourish my own life and to live to the fullest of my capabilities.

And as for the lack of feeling satisfied in your life’s work, sometimes your life slows down in order for you to take a step back and work on yourself. To heal your insides, give yourself the attention that you need in order to build yourself back up into the strong capable person ready to get back out there and shine bright! Soon, the feelings of satisfaction will come naturally when you follow your heart and your passions, when you seek out what you desire. The job, the clients, the friends, that ‘whole’ feeling.

Sometimes patience really is key. To have the ability to wait for how you want your life to be. What is meant for you will come to you when the time is right. Who knows when that might be, but in the mean time, work on yourself. Strive to be the best version of yourself you can be. Your best and highest self! And let life flow to you and through you. As you have the ability to exercise patience, you let go of control and surrender to the present moment. Finding a sense of peace and satisfaction in all that you currently have, while feeling optimistic and excited for what is yet to come!

So don’t let one week, month or year get you down! Because you ARE enough! And all that you are doing for now IS enough. Everyone moves at their own pace. The idea is not how fast you are going but that you reach the finish line, and then start all over again! Because there is always something new to learn and discover.

So I just wanted to say that you are where you need to be and who you need to be at this very moment and that is more than enough 🙂

You Are Whole.

We’ve all had those days… The ones where you don’t feel like getting up. Where you don’t feel like doing anything at all. When doing even the littlest thing can feel like climbing over a mountain. When you know what you need to do to get yourself out of this funk but you just can’t bring yourself to do it. When you feel that your are in this situation, it is important to understand and accept how you are feeling. How you feel is very valid. It is important to note what your body is trying to tell you, what your emotions are trying to tell you. When you acknowledge what you are feeling and get to the root of why you feel this way, you have won more than half the battle! And once you have pin pointed what and why you feel this way, you have given yourself the compassion and understanding that a very large part of you was craving deep down. When you acknowledge and accept, you are able to get out of your own way and let things flow through you as they naturally would.

We all go through those days, weeks and months! They are filled with growth and learning! When you start to become aware of why these situations are placed in your life, they start to get easier. When we listen, we can understand and when we understand, we can feel through it and move ever so on. Move on and forward with our lives, evolving, shining and loving bright!

We need to start to learning to love the process rather than focusing on the result. When we focus on the process, our reward is the beautiful result. So let’s bring some more awareness into our lives. What are situations among us here to bring to our attention? What do we need to really open our eyes to and see clearly? What can we let go of? And how can we let go of judgement and expand our view or perception of the world around us?

When we change the way we view things, we essentially change the way we feel and in turn change the way we live too. Our entire world starts to shift for the better. Just remember that only you can pick yourself up, only you can fill that void inside of you and only you can make yourself feel whole. It is important to understand that you are whole! You don’t need to look externally for that feeling. When you empower yourself to stand tall, you allow yourself to accept and acknowledge that you are very much and entirely whole as one.

When you feel lonely, when you feel a little bit less whole, it is important to acknowledge all the aspects of your life that make you feel that way, and start to incorporate ways in which you can nourish your inner being. To find ways to fill yourself up with an abundance of love and joy. So how can you do that for yourself? Some ways to nourish yourself could be being one with nature, exercising, practicing a hobby, going for a class you enjoy, being mindful, meditating, laughing, singing, dancing… and so on. When you feel lonely it is important to fill yourself up on the inside rather than searching for external sources, as while they may make you feel better for a little while, it sometimes tends to be a fleeting sensation. Wouldn’t it make you feel better to know that you could give that to yourself? While it is very important to also engage in external sources for happiness as we humans are social beings, it would be so lovely to also know that you are not relying on that entirely. You can handle it yourself, you’ve got this!

So I hope this makes you feel better and a little less lonely as you need to remind yourself that You Are Whole! Lots of love…

Finding Freedom 🕊️

Freedom, a word which is quite often underrated can quite possibly be the key to alot of breakthroughs! Freedom comes in many different forms and fashions, however understanding freedom and what it means to feel free is elite in itself. It is the power to think, act, feel how one wants without restraint. When searching deep within oneself, it’s important to factor in the term freedom. What does it mean? How do I feel about it? Have I ever known what freedom feels like? Then its important to ask yourself… Well do I feel free? What holds me back? What weighs on my shoulders and drags me down? What would it feel like if I were to be free from it? To unlock the chains that drag you down or hold you back?

The first step to finding freedom, would be to understand freedom. The feeling, the emotion, it’s symbolism, what aspects of your life you feel freedom and where you may lack it. Just like happiness and joy, freedom plays a huge role in finding meaning to life, in feeling uplifted and full of energy!

Some, I would call the worriers who worry themselves away into an endless loop of what if’s, doubts and maybe not’s. I know this cycle all too well and it’s easy to fall into this trap where thoughts take over and simultaneously have your emotions follow in its footsteps. Feeling fear, worry, doubt and maybe shame. How do you break the cycle? How do you break these chains that hold you back emotionally? I would say, it would be the art of finding freedom. Freedom from your thoughts, freedom from your emotions, just freedom in all that you do. One could say it is the freedom from identifying with the thoughts running through our minds or emotions flowing through our bodies that do not serve our highest good. It is more than a mindset, it is a lifestyle. To not only think freely, but to feel free and act with freedom. To have every action of your governed by love and freedom rather than fear or worry.

Growing up and living through our lives, we all experience a range of different experiences and situations. Some good, some bad and some absolutely beautiful. Whatever they may be, they all shape us. It is however our choice of how these situations mould us. Do we want them to hold us back? Or do we want to learn from them. To grow and expand and shine brighter than ever before because of them. From all of our experiences, it is only natural for us to from our own beliefs and perceptions about ourselves and the world around us. Some of these beliefs can be quite debilitating to our mental state. For example the “I’m not good enough” “What if I get rejected?” “Am I competent?” “I’d rather not because I’m scared…”. These are a few beliefs that limit us from reaching our full potential, from finding freedom.

The key to freeing ourselves is to become aware of these beliefs that we hold, to dig deep within ourselves, to figure out which emotions are triggered by which beliefs that we hold and whether they are serving our highest good or not. To ask yourself what kind of situations trigger these beliefs and how can I rewrite them to help change my perspective to a more positive and uplifting one. Essentially how can I free myself from the beliefs I hold that weigh me down?

Sometimes emotional baggage can be rough. It plays such a huge role in how we live our lives, the decisions that we make, and the path that we take. It is up to us to find the courage and confidence in our ability to be able to heal our emotions, to come to terms with our past and to learn that just because you experienced whatever you did in the past, does not mean it needs to influence your present OR your future. That is where you have the definitive choice. To either stay stuck in your past beliefs, experiences, feelings etc OR to free yourself from all that holds you back. From all that weighs on you.

For some of us, the courage to step out of our comfort zone can be quite a task. Even if our comfort zone may be a constant state of worry… or the inability to take beautiful risks. What if breaking out of your comfort zone means finding your freedom? What if it means finally freeing yourself from fear, from guilt, from shame, from self-criticism and from doubt and longing. Freedom can be a beautiful thing. If only more of us had the courage to strive for it. I certainly am trying and believe me, sometimes I feel it is the key to true happiness and abundance.

Freedom could even look like freedom from judgement, for example free from judging others but also from the judgement of others. In other words, this sort of freedom comes with a deep acceptance of oneself. Sort of saying “I completely love and accept myself” so whatever anyone else thinks of me is inconsequential. And of course when you love and accept yourself, it is a tiny bit easier to love and accept others for their truth and authenticity.

Let’s talk about freedom in relationships. To free yourself from the ever creeping toxicities that sometimes arise creating a rather unhealthy relationship. Freedom from jealousy, control and clinging are just a few. The real freedom comes from trust, compromise, communication, loyalty, compassion. The list goes on. To be free in a relationship is to be your authentic self, to live an authentic life and as a bonus, to have the addition of someone to share your life with. So that they do not take away from you, yet you do not take away from them. The idea that you do not need each other to exist, rather you want and chose to be with each other. I find a sort of beauty in that. It feels uplifting and nourishing rather than stifling and lacking.

Finding freedom from your inner critic is a important too. We all have that one voice in our heads telling us off, or shouting at us for what we did or didn’t do. For our regrets, for what we feel shameful for. It can be hard to live with that kind of inner roommate. The first step in this case is to acknowledge that you are not alone. This is a common issue, and so many are governed by this inner critic. But why? If only we could adopt a kinder, more nurturing and compassionate voice. One that offers forgiveness for our mistakes and offer understanding for our shortcomings. Finding freedom from our inner critic, requires a constant awareness of our inner voice and what it is saying. How it is influencing our emotions and our actions as well. The whole idea is to recognise when your inner critic is on a role and to choose better for yourself. It is important to realise that we do have control over how we speak to ourselves! To be firm and demand better, more nurturing, more nourishment, more love. And who better to give it to you than yourself!

So I hope this little piece, helps and guides you into the beautiful journey of finding ones freedom. Whatever that may be or feel for you. Whether it’s going for a swim, practicing a martial art, painting, practicing a hobby, being in nature, adopting a completely different lifestyle, changing your mindset, or even taking space from an environment that holds you back. Whatever it may be, I wish you all the very best and hope that more people have the wonderful opportunity of being free.

Follow the butterflies 🦋

Butterflies, you know the feeling… that fluttery buoyancy within your gut that makes your entire body sing to life! I think everyone has experienced butterflies within themselves at some point in life. The feeling as though your stomach is going to take off. How inspiring, how lovely, and how magical. Feeling butterflies is one of the joys and wanders in the lives we lead. So why not chase after the things that make us feel these butterflies. Find what ticks for us, what sparks us to life and just go after it. Dive right in and immerse yourself in what feels so incredibly good. Because that IS how you create a truly magical life. One filled with excitement, overwhelming joy, love, happiness and laughter. If that is not the dream, I don’t know what is!

So what gives you butterflies? Is it a job, a hobby, is it spending time with yourself, a martial art, meditation? The possibilities are endless. But the idea is to be so hopelessly in love with your life that feeling these butterflies becomes a very regular part of it. And I feel that it all begins with your perspective and attitude towards life. Adopt an attitude of gratitude, allow yourself to be free of judgment of yourself and others and then just live beautifully! Why not??? Just do it. It begins with an intention to do so and as you align your daily actions with this intention, a ripple effect starts and a whole wave of endless possibilities enter your life! How enchanting to live a life as such.

So be YOU. The you that feels good, the you that you are proud of and look up to. In this case, do first and think later, just go for it and see where it leads you. My guess is it leads to into the beauty of life. The side that you see when you lean into love and allow yourself to flow and grow. So follow those damn butterflies until they lead you somewhere super special!

The idea is not to follow a person who gives you butterflies, but follow the feeling. If and when those butterflies cease to exist you know your time with that activity/experience is up. And believe me that is not a bad thing!! It is just life. Not everything or everyone is meant to stay. We have to move on and find out what’s next. How exciting is that? And believe me when I say this, sometimes things don’t work out because there is an even greater opportunity out there for you that you are being guided to! How can you know what’s around the corner. You have to trust. Trust and let go. See where it takes you, Be patient and look forward to the beauty that awaits!

So spread your wings and take a leap of faith! Take ten leaps of faith! Fly around the world… live your dream, make things happen FOR you! If now isn’t the time then when will be? We have to live NOW otherwise we are not living are we? Fly to and from all the wonderful and amazing opportunities, experiences and relationships that are just waiting for you to grab a hold of! But it all starts within you. It starts with the simple action of actually following through with the desire to follow your gut, to let it guide you to greatness! And when you do this, when you exercise this courage and bravery, you are unstoppable. A force of nature, so beautiful and unique.

And as you go down this path, you uncover who you truly are. How the experiences of following the butterflies lead you to the truest version of you, the highest and best you can possibly be! That is simply the best reward there is, to know your true self and just be unapologetically and authentically YOU! To uncover parts of yourself that were hidden, parts of yourself that you never imagined of being within you! So just let it shine through!

I look forward to hearing about how each and everyone one of you follow your own butterflies!

Finding Direction ➢

With life’s ever flowing and winding ways, it can be hard to find consistent direction at times. You are either being pulled in once direction or completely yanked out of another. It can be hard to flow with the change and to adapt to the given circumstances or changes in your environment that you didn’t plan for. But hey, we are resilient beings that were made for this. Through it all, we are adaptable creatures born to survive and then thrive!

At some stage in life I think almost all of us have felt that niggling feeling of being lost. Not knowing where to go, or being somewhere and not knowing or having an end or goal in sight. How long can it go on for and what must we do about it? First ask yourself… “What do I really want?” then the following question “What can I do to get myself there?” And each and every day you create consistent steps in getting there. Baby steps are the best steps to take, so that you can really solidify your change and progress.

Sometimes, as you stray further and further from yourself you can end up very lost. Straying from yourself could look like staying in a job or relationship that is not right for you, or does not allow your true nature to shine through. It almost feels like your living on autopilot mode, when in fact you should be in the driver’s seat of your life. Making conscious decisions for how you want your life to be, and how to get there! Coming back to yourself is direction in itself. It is the going inwards that allows one to get to know themselves so that they can unleash their true and unique authenticity! Finding their passions and following their dreams in order to learn and grow best!

And direction… as mentioned above does not need to be linear. It could be going/looking backward to heal your past, straying from your path in order to learn vital life lessons that would eventually bring you back, or it could be looking up, preparing for the amazing future in store for you! So living with direction does not have to be the rigid straight line that many of us often think of. You can get creative with it and allow yourself a few detours as well. Because detours are obstacle in the right direction. So create your own definition of what direction means to you and how you can find motivation through that.

Direction intermingled with emotion is a great driving force in achieving and going after your dreams. To find what you love, what you dream of… your passion in life and to align you actions, goals and intentions in accordance is a lovely act! One, few of us think to do and often settle for less. Why do we settle for less when we can find true happiness in doing what we love to do? Yes, it may be out of the general norm and a little bit of a risk but would that not be entirely worth it? To seek true and lifelong happiness right down to your roots. Now that, no amount of money can buy.

So allow yourself to be pulled in different directions, see where they all lead you. My guess is that they lead to just where you need to go, on the path to finding true beauty and magic! Trust the guidance and follow the direction!

Making Mistakes, Dealing With Judgement And Shining On.

Sometimes it’s the right decisions that don’t feel so good. But that doesn’t mean that they are not right. Often are goal is to feel good, but are we striving for feeling good in the long term or short term? Striving for feeling good in the long term means that sometimes, you have to make the hard decisions. You have to do the things that don’t feel so good in the short term. Because you know where you want to be and that means letting go of certain beliefs, habits, relationships along the way that are just not serving your best and highest good any longer. It means letting go and flowing with change. Moving forward even if that feels totally out of your comfort zone. Just let go and flow. 

But what about the guilt of putting yourself first? What about the feeling of “am I making the right decision?” “What will they think of me?” that creeps in. The truth is… everyone is focussed on their own lives and rightfully so! It’s not about what she thinks or how they will judge your decisions. It’s about what feels right to you. It’s about what you need and about where you want to go most importantly. Just because your actions make someone else feel uncomfortable… does not mean that you have done something wrong. As long as you live your life with good intentions, whatever they feel is theirs to feel. You cannot neglect your needs or yourself for that matter. You cannot dim your light in order to make someone else feel better about themselves. Shine anyway! In the hopes that they feel inspired to shine too! And if not… then you respect that and move on. But it is not your job to make other people happy. It is not your job to figure out what they think about you and whether or not that is good or bad. Just live your life. Do the best you can do and know that that is enough.

Judgement is the bane of almost everything. Yes, it is human nature to judge but must we be so critical or so quick to make a judgement itself? Yes, give people the benefit of the doubt, but also keep in mind your self worth, values and respect. If someone does not value you, then respectfully pull away. There is no need for judgement. “I am thankful for this situation, for showing what is not meant for me”. Not everyone is meant for you and you are not meant for everyone and that is okay!

When we start to move beyond judgement, we find that ego has no place in our relationships. That life really is quite simple! It’s not about what they think of you, or why they did what they did. That is none of our business and quite frankly going over all the possibilities will leave us in a mess unless you openly ask them. So let go, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and what you could maybe do differently in similar situations that come up in the future. Because that is life! To learn from your experiences, from your successes and failures.

We are going to make mistakes ALL the time! It’s time to start accepting that. To start loving that part of ourselves that are not perfect. To be ok with making mistakes. Because at the end of the day we are all human. A little bit of forgiveness can go a long long way. Especially when that forgiveness comes from within. So forgive yourself for the mistakes. Learn from them! Allow them in, to teach us, to guide us to where we are meant to be! And it is ok to make mistakes in front of others. It does not matter what they think of it. As long as you accept it, love yourself for making the mistake, learn from it, grow immensely and then beautifully move on and try your best to do better next time.

For if it were not for that mistake, I would not have learned what I learned. And without that life lesson, I would not be where I am today. So thank you for allowing me to make that mistake, in a safe and gentle environment. Thank you for what came of it and thank you for the kindness I receive every single day 🙂 

Making Joy a Priority!


The power of feeling GOOD! It is such an amazing feeling. To feel energised, alive and in a sense of just being. So few of us actually allow ourselves this state of being because we are so focussed on things that don’t necessarily make us feel… well good! When you start to prioritise feeling good, feeling excited, feeling aligned and joyful, you start to attract things into your life that align with those feelings!!!

So the first step is NOT to find something to make you feel good externally, it is to find it within yourself and let go of all that surrounds you. Let it come and go…. and flow! You will start to notice that when you let go of the externalities of your life and focus on how you feel within, your external environment will start to flow so magically! Aligning with what you feel within. So start to cultivate joy, excitement, feeling good! And you will start to reap the rewards of these feelings. New opportunities will enter your life, new relationships, people, things! The possibilities are endless. So start now and welcome it all in with open arms! It is a fabulous experience, to commit to feeling joy, because that is essentially what you are asking for and what you WILL receive.

So… how do we cultivate joy? How do we prioritise joy? So that we can welcome in joyful circumstances into our lives? It is quite simple, but requires consistency. Start by meditating. Meditating is so wonderful, it helps you become aware of your inner world, how you are feeling, the causes behind those feelings and how to release what is not serving you! Gabrielle Bernstein’s meditation on cultivating joy is a definite must to listen to! I highly recommend it. What makes you feel joyful? Is it music, dancing, cooking? Spend time with people who make you FEEL good!

Feeling joy is great but you will also want to align your actions with this intention. Telling all, that this is how I want to feel, and this is what I am going to do about it. The rest I let go off… what I cannot control. And I ask that I receive a joy beyond my wildest of dreams! A joy that engulfs every cell in my body and energises me to no end! Let it go. Breath into the feeling and breathe it out, put it out there so that when it bounces back to you, it bounces back ten fold! Be patient, and be certain of your outcome. You are attracting joy, it will come! Have faith and believe that it’s on it’s way to you, for you. And so it is!

Holding onto the joy. Sometimes we feel joyful fleetingly. It comes and then goes. But how do we keep it with us? The key is to let it go. Put it out there. Breathe the joy in as you inhale and on your exhale let it go! Do not try to control the feeling and keep it with you because you will be contracting and limiting yourself, when our goal is expansion! In order to expand we must be alright with feeling the range of feelings that are out there. But our goal… is to make joy the most prominent. For us to come back to joy always. For joy to be the baseline of our emotions and feelings. So let it go, with the intention that it will come back to you ten fold and believe me it will!

Visualise a bright purple bubble of joy washing over you filling your cells up with a beautiful and buzzing feeling of excitement, happiness, feeling good, alignment and JOY! As you breathe in visualise the bright purple integrating with each and every part of your body, and as you exhale feel it washing over you, spreading through and through. Tap into that feeling, uplift yourself and bask in it. For joy is a wonderful feeling, one so powerful and beautiful that you just cannot not prioritise it in your life!

I look forward to hearing all about how you cultivate and prioritise joy in your beautiful lives! Love, warmth and happiness always 🙂



The Importance Of Space

Space. Space can be found in your home, in nature and believe it or not you can even find it in a crowded room. As it is possible to create space from within. Space is so important as we are allowing our soul some room within us, to speak up, to guide and to help us find our true purpose. Our soul is our inner guide, which has so much cultivated wisdom that if only we could create the space to listen to its whispers, we wouldn’t need to seek as much external guidance. Because our soul knows. It knows when we haven’t got a clue! You just need to create that little bit of space.

Photo by eberhard grossgasteiger

So… how do we create space?

Sit In Silence

Calm your mind, centre yourself and then ask yourself a question. Sit or lay down in silence for however long you feel you need to and quietly wait for the answers to come flooding in!

Meditate

Create space for your ego self to become less prominent, allowing your soul and your body to begin to have a voice too! You are not your body or your mind. You are experiencing both, so you get to choose which you want to influence your experience most!

Listen To Your Body

Usually, your body knows. Listen to how it feels. Feel your emotions. Allow them to speak to you through your intuition! Listen to that gut feeling, what is it trying to tell you? If it feels good, it is good.

Connect your Mind and Body through the powerful tool of Breath-work

Mind-Body Connection

Journal

Sometimes the best way to allow room for your soul to speak to you is to journal. And as the words flow through from your heart to your hand, from your hand through the pen and onto paper, you will find all that you need and all that you are looking for in terms of guidance and letting go in what you have put down on paper. It may not all make sense at the time, but it will eventually. Trust it, switch your mind off and just write anything and everything. Let your body guide your fingers as it knows, even when you think you do not.

Space To Follow Our Intuition

What feels good? And then go and do it. Whether it’s cooking, reading, dancing, reaching out to someone, laughing, working or even writing. Let your intuition guide you. When you don’t know what to do next… sit in silence and ask yourself the question of “What should I do now that is in my best interest?” and soon enough, you will have your answer. Search for it in you feelings, something that makes you feel excited, happy, filled with joy and love. And then go and do that thing!!! Do it with all your might. Focus on just doing that one thing and you will feel on top of the world. When you start to do more and more things for yourself, things that make you feel good, you start to receive more of it. 

Space doesn’t just have to come from within. It could also be someplace where you feel at ease, calm and peaceful. A space where you can breathe and let loose, be your true and authentic self. A calm and soothing space. It could be under you favourite tree, a spot on the beach, your room, or your office! Wherever it may be. And if you don’t have a space yet… have a think about it! Get creative. What is your ideal space? One which is going to make you feel super good. And then get right on it!

I look forward to hearing how you create space for yourself!

All my love and warmth ❤

Riding The Waves

Nolan Omura

Some say that venturing under the ocean is like entering an entirely new world. The beauty and magic that lies along the sea bed is quite and truly spectacular, yet so vast and unknown. What I would like to shed some light on in this little ramble is what is experienced on the surface of the ocean. The waves that flow ever so marvellously. The push and pull. Much like the waves that experience magnificent highs and lows, we do too.

As we float on the surface of the ocean, we begin to really embody the essence of flow. As the waves move upward, so do we. And as they ripple on down, we move with them. The challenge often occurs when we resist such sensation. The highs and the lows will most definitely come and go. That is what it is to be a wave, and that is what it is to be human. Dare I say… being a human and living a life on earth is an entirely courageous act. And we should be ever so gentle with ourselves for it. Because however fantastical it may be to experience the emotional highs, courageously welcoming in the lows are what make us so beautifully balanced and brave. For we are not afraid to feel discomfort. We are not afraid of hardship. We stand tall and flow with the waves. And that is when we truly learn what it is like to ride the waves. To live life as an exciting adventure. One so very enchanting.

A very important lesson that I recently had the opportunity to learn was that no matter how far behind we may think we have stumbled, we are still on the path moving forward. I have been very mislead by the phrase “one step forward, two steps back” over the years. I now realise that we are never going backwards. Always moving forwards. We may feel at times, as though we are moving backwards due to the low we are experiencing, or the feeling of “I’m back to square one”. But if it were not for the low, we would not have that extra boost to really bounce back and experience an even greater high. And that is the essence of growth. To expand. To become aware that no matter what you may feel or experience, you are ever moving beautifully forward. It may not be a straight line forward, there may be countless detours along the way, but even the detours are pushing us forward along a beautiful path of growth!

Breathing, just like waves is an ever expanding and contracting, a rising and falling. You get shallow breathing, and deep breathing, just as you do in the waters. And as you get choppy waters and calm/still waters, you get shortness of breathe as compared to still and relaxed breathing. Breathing is a magical practice, one that comes so easily to us, yet it is often taken for granted. Allowing our awareness to focus on the feeling of drawing breath in and out of our bodies. How it fills us up, and really keeps us alive! We could all be grateful that we have the ability to breathe, we can live without a lot of things… but could we live without our breathe? For if it were not for our breathe, we would not be roaming this earth. So let’s take a moment to really appreciate our breathe. Take notice of it, be mindful of it and start to expand our awareness on our breathe, the way we breathe through life’s up’s and down’s. How mastering our breathing can change the way we live our lives!

So let’s enjoy riding life’s many beautiful waves and really take a moment to notice the beauty of it all! Warm wishes always 🙂

Happiness… and where to find it!

Have you ever longed to be overwhelmingly happy? To go to bed excited for tomorrow and to wake up with a goofy grin on your face? Well you have come to the right place! Happiness begins and ends in the present moment. The illusion that a lot of us carry along with us is thinking that it will be found by either recalling past memories of happy times or thinking it will be found in the future. For example, by achieving your dream job, or going on that holiday that you have been longing for. Don’t get me wrong, those things are great! And of course they will make you feel good! But we are talking about true and long lasting happiness here. A kind of happiness that stems from within, that seeps into our bones, awakens every cell in our bodies and really brings us to life! One that doesn’t rely on the influence of our external environment. Now that… you can only find when you are living in the present moment.

If we don’t nourish ourselves in the present moment, how are we expected to flourish in our future?

Have a think about it. Really take the time to tap into yourself in the here and now. Connect with yourself. How are you feeling? What do you feel you are lacking? What is your body craving for that your mind is too stubborn to give it? What are a few things that you could do to come back to yourself and really ground yourself in the now? What makes you come alive? What allows you space and room to breath fresh! What brings you joy? And what makes you laugh? Try and do more of these things and trust me you will not be waiting for your next holiday or your next promotion to be happy. For as long as we search for long term happiness externally, we will not find it. Going inwards is the path that leads to being truly happy. So please please please search your unique self!

The brilliant thing is, that no matter how far you stray, you can ALWAYS come back and start anew. Yes, it may take more of an effort depending how far you actually venture from your true self, but it all starts within you. It starts with an intention to really do better for yourself. It comes down to a simple choice. Do I want to be happy right now? Most of us say yes, but do we really mean it? We need to commit ourselves to being happy, commit ourselves to the present moment. Choose happiness again and again and then really embody the essence of it.

See it as a habit that you’re building for yourself. It definitely takes a conscious effort to make bad habits. It takes an equal amount of effort to create healthy habits. Why not make happiness a lifestyle? So what makes you happy? What makes you excited about today, tomorrow, a week, a month or a year from now?! How are you being called to be happy?

For me personally, happiness begins when I have the time to reconnect with myself. We I am in tune and aligned with all parts of my being. When I take the time to take care of myself and treat myself as I would treat a loved one. And when I feel it lacking, I will often ask myself… What could I do right now, in this very moment that is going to uplift me? I wait for the answer to come to me and then get right on it! I absolutely love to cook, I love to get creative and I love to listen to the kind of music that makes each and every cell in my body come alive! These are a few simple tasks that give me joy throughout my day! It doesn’t have to become a major thing. If you could only take a few minutes out of your day, doing something for yourself… just because!

However… no matter what we do, sometimes our mood can tend to dip and it takes ALOT of self discipline or self love to pick ourselves up and do something that we know will make us feel better. I find that when I’m feeling down or unmotivated, exercise can be a brilliant tool to get your juices flowing! And it’s not like you have to run a marathon (amazing if you can!), all you have to do is around 10 minutes. Something to get your blood pumping. So that you can release all that stagnant energy in your body and create room for high vibes and some much needed love!

Another obstacle that I often face is focus. I sometimes find it hard to focus on just one task at hand. The all too familiar negative or worrying thought cycles come to life and I am too enraptured in the events playing out in my mind to focus on what I am actually trying to do, which is essentially being happy! So once again… it come down to choice. We are choosing to focus our attention off the thoughts that are not serving our highest good.

Mindfulness is a tool that most of us overlook, but do not underestimate the power of being mindful. I tell you, it changed my life for the better! Small practices of mindfulness every day can enhance our quality of life. Being aware of our daily duties such as brushing our teeth or making our bed can create such an awakening within ourselves. Hear the sound of the sheets rustling, touch the soft fabric against your fingertips, smell the fresh linen wafting up your nose, look at your clean freshly made bed with satisfaction and determination… for it will be a great great day! And sense your mouth watering for the delicious breakfast that awaits your system!!

So you see, happiness can be cultivated through everyday tasks, it just has to start from within yourself. It really is quite simple if you are willing to try!

I look forward to hearing about all of your journeys to happiness!!