Finding Direction ➢

With life’s ever flowing and winding ways, it can be hard to find consistent direction at times. You are either being pulled in once direction or completely yanked out of another. It can be hard to flow with the change and to adapt to the given circumstances or changes in your environment that you didn’t plan for. But hey, we are resilient beings that were made for this. Through it all, we are adaptable creatures born to survive and then thrive!

At some stage in life I think almost all of us have felt that niggling feeling of being lost. Not knowing where to go, or being somewhere and not knowing or having an end or goal in sight. How long can it go on for and what must we do about it? First ask yourself… “What do I really want?” then the following question “What can I do to get myself there?” And each and every day you create consistent steps in getting there. Baby steps are the best steps to take, so that you can really solidify your change and progress.

Sometimes, as you stray further and further from yourself you can end up very lost. Straying from yourself could look like staying in a job or relationship that is not right for you, or does not allow your true nature to shine through. It almost feels like your living on autopilot mode, when in fact you should be in the driver’s seat of your life. Making conscious decisions for how you want your life to be, and how to get there! Coming back to yourself is direction in itself. It is the going inwards that allows one to get to know themselves so that they can unleash their true and unique authenticity! Finding their passions and following their dreams in order to learn and grow best!

And direction… as mentioned above does not need to be linear. It could be going/looking backward to heal your past, straying from your path in order to learn vital life lessons that would eventually bring you back, or it could be looking up, preparing for the amazing future in store for you! So living with direction does not have to be the rigid straight line that many of us often think of. You can get creative with it and allow yourself a few detours as well. Because detours are obstacle in the right direction. So create your own definition of what direction means to you and how you can find motivation through that.

Direction intermingled with emotion is a great driving force in achieving and going after your dreams. To find what you love, what you dream of… your passion in life and to align you actions, goals and intentions in accordance is a lovely act! One, few of us think to do and often settle for less. Why do we settle for less when we can find true happiness in doing what we love to do? Yes, it may be out of the general norm and a little bit of a risk but would that not be entirely worth it? To seek true and lifelong happiness right down to your roots. Now that, no amount of money can buy.

So allow yourself to be pulled in different directions, see where they all lead you. My guess is that they lead to just where you need to go, on the path to finding true beauty and magic! Trust the guidance and follow the direction!

Going Inwards 🌀

The path to success lies in the path to going within yourself. To heal every inch of yourself and every cell in your being. To learn to love yourself, so that you can truly love others. When you go inwards, you are committing to yourself. You are valuing and respecting yourself enough to take valuable time and investing it in you. And as you start to do that, you reap the rewards! 

Going inwards can look like journalling your thoughts and feelings each day, getting to know yourself, your likes and dislike, the parts of you that you are proud off and the parts of you that you would like to improve on. 

To some going inwards could mean coming out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there, only to find more of yourself. Challenging yourself, and telling yourself that the discomfort of not doing it so far greater than the discomfort of actually doing it. However, for others it may look like sitting in silence, spending time with yourself to really get to know your true self without the added layers.

Going inwards means acknowledging where you are on your journey, whilst creating space for who you want to become. Working on yourself each and every day. Because instead of committing to a job, you are committing to yourself. And in doing so, you may just attract your dream job! A job that ticks all the boxes, that opens some really wonderful doors for you and a life that you wake up to with a smile each and every day! 

So why not go within? So many of us seek external validation, reassurance, love, happiness. The idea is to find it within ourselves. Learn to validate ourselves. To be accepting of each and every part of ourselves so that if someone else doesn’t like it, we aren’t as knocked down as we would have been. We wouldn’t change ourselves just to appease someone else. We can understand that we are not for everyone and not everyone is for us. To seek to reassure ourselves and love ourselves inside and out, because if you don’t love yourself, are you truly happy and satisfied? True happiness is found from within too. Take the time to befriend yourself. To be with yourself, laugh at your own jokes, read to yourself, dance alone, cook a delicious meal for yourself or even get dressed up for you. Because at the end of the day, no one is going to do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. Of course you will have loved ones and friends, and of course cherish them! But be alright with being by yourself, because that is where your true power lies! To say that I don’t need you in my life, but I would love  to have you in my life, and therefore it works! To be perfectly independent…together! 

So let’s really dive deep within ourselves. Get to know ourselves on a higher level. To figure out the parts of us that still need resolution, the parts that need to be acknowledged and the parts that need to be healed. To become aware is the very first step, and then you can work on either releasing what no longer serves you, or work on bettering yourself, FOR yourself! Because at the end of the day… it is you who you are living with. We spend most of our time with ourselves and so why not prioritise building a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves first? We are our own best guides. Let’s work on being a person who feels good about themselves, excited for each day and in alignment with our true essence. 

I look forward to hearing all your your journey’s to going inwards! Warmth and hugs always 🙂

Making Mistakes, Dealing With Judgement And Shining On.

Sometimes it’s the right decisions that don’t feel so good. But that doesn’t mean that they are not right. Often are goal is to feel good, but are we striving for feeling good in the long term or short term? Striving for feeling good in the long term means that sometimes, you have to make the hard decisions. You have to do the things that don’t feel so good in the short term. Because you know where you want to be and that means letting go of certain beliefs, habits, relationships along the way that are just not serving your best and highest good any longer. It means letting go and flowing with change. Moving forward even if that feels totally out of your comfort zone. Just let go and flow. 

But what about the guilt of putting yourself first? What about the feeling of “am I making the right decision?” “What will they think of me?” that creeps in. The truth is… everyone is focussed on their own lives and rightfully so! It’s not about what she thinks or how they will judge your decisions. It’s about what feels right to you. It’s about what you need and about where you want to go most importantly. Just because your actions make someone else feel uncomfortable… does not mean that you have done something wrong. As long as you live your life with good intentions, whatever they feel is theirs to feel. You cannot neglect your needs or yourself for that matter. You cannot dim your light in order to make someone else feel better about themselves. Shine anyway! In the hopes that they feel inspired to shine too! And if not… then you respect that and move on. But it is not your job to make other people happy. It is not your job to figure out what they think about you and whether or not that is good or bad. Just live your life. Do the best you can do and know that that is enough.

Judgement is the bane of almost everything. Yes, it is human nature to judge but must we be so critical or so quick to make a judgement itself? Yes, give people the benefit of the doubt, but also keep in mind your self worth, values and respect. If someone does not value you, then respectfully pull away. There is no need for judgement. “I am thankful for this situation, for showing what is not meant for me”. Not everyone is meant for you and you are not meant for everyone and that is okay!

When we start to move beyond judgement, we find that ego has no place in our relationships. That life really is quite simple! It’s not about what they think of you, or why they did what they did. That is none of our business and quite frankly going over all the possibilities will leave us in a mess unless you openly ask them. So let go, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and what you could maybe do differently in similar situations that come up in the future. Because that is life! To learn from your experiences, from your successes and failures.

We are going to make mistakes ALL the time! It’s time to start accepting that. To start loving that part of ourselves that are not perfect. To be ok with making mistakes. Because at the end of the day we are all human. A little bit of forgiveness can go a long long way. Especially when that forgiveness comes from within. So forgive yourself for the mistakes. Learn from them! Allow them in, to teach us, to guide us to where we are meant to be! And it is ok to make mistakes in front of others. It does not matter what they think of it. As long as you accept it, love yourself for making the mistake, learn from it, grow immensely and then beautifully move on and try your best to do better next time.

For if it were not for that mistake, I would not have learned what I learned. And without that life lesson, I would not be where I am today. So thank you for allowing me to make that mistake, in a safe and gentle environment. Thank you for what came of it and thank you for the kindness I receive every single day 🙂 

Your Needs Vs. The Needs Of Others

If you do not take care of yourself, how are you to even begin to take care of another? Kindness, generosity and giving for others can only go so far, learning to give that to yourself is key. When we take care of our needs, we are able to give far more to others than if we do not take care of ourselves. Selflessness works to an extent, however we must remind ourselves that it is ok to be selfless toward ourselves too. Take some time to really go inwards. Ask yourself what you want, what are your needs to feel balanced, fulfilled, loved, nurtured, supported and guided. Then come up with creative ways in which you can give that to yourself.

There is a beautiful shift that takes place when you take care of yourself. When you set healthy boundaries for yourself out of love and compassion. To heal yourself, so that you can heal others. Because would you not be doing others a disservice by not reaching your full potential first? Wouldn’t you want then to receive the full power of your healing? In order to give that, you need to put yourself first. You need to make yourself a priority and invest your time, effort, love and hard work into yourself. To heal yourself, break up all the limitations and all the blocks within yourself so that you can let go and flow, learn and grow!

And sometimes putting yourself first upsets others. They turn to you to feel good, to feel joy and find support. And when you don’t give it to them, it causes a sort of disconnect between the two of you. And that is alright. Because the truth is that no one is going to take care of you in a way that you can take care of yourself. So you putting yourself first, may cause distance and discomfort in some of your relationships, but it also teaches others to go within themselves too. If they cannot find the love and support that they need from you, it is encouraging them to look within themselves too! And hopefully that will trigger their own inner growth and healing. Sometimes we just need to put ourselves first.

And of course we feel guilty for doing something for ourselves, knowing it may cause discomfort/disconnect in our relationships. We may also feel undeserving of it. But is that a healthy reason not to do it? Putting yourself first does not mean that you are doing something wrong, even if someone else gets upset by it. It just means that you are taking care of yourself, going after your dreams and making the most out of the life that you have been blessed with. As long as you do everything with love and gentleness, with good intentions, there is no need to feel guilty for it. It is what is of the best and highest good of all. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, and even if it makes some people upset.

Something I find difficult to accept is knowing someone you care for is going through a difficult situation, and knowing that they need to experience it in order to learn what they need to learn. My instinct would be to want to take away their troubles and make them feel good. BUT, the truth is… that when they don’t learn what they have to from that experience, another situation just like it will come into their lives and another and another, until they learn what they are meant to learn from it. So by trying to take their pain away, you are doing a disservice to them, as it is their journey and their path to go on, to feel, to learn and to grow from. All we can do is to be there and help them help themselves. To offer tools and practices that they could benefit from.

So take care of yourself! Know that everyone has to go through what they have to go through, there is ALWAYS a silver lining and it IS for the best even when it doesn’t feel like it! 🙂

To New Beginnings!

Oleksandr Tereshchuk

As the famous quote goes “When one door closes, another door opens”. The possibilities, the change, the ability to really create something truly magnificent. Bringing in a new chapter to your life, what a grand celebration! New beginnings could be a chance to reflect on past choices/experiences and learn from them. To maybe do things differently, it could be creating healthier habits, or finding the courage to go after your dreams. It could even mean letting go of what holds you back so that you can finally reach your potential. The possibilities are endless.

A new beginning can look like a brand new day, the start of a new week and the excitement of a new year. Monday’s are commonly known to be dreaded but why? Why are Monday’s not celebrated and cherished?! For we are being blessed with yet another glorious week on this earth, in the ever so unique and lovely lives that we lead. So let’s take the time to cherish a Monday for a brand new start to what could be a great week. Monday’s could be a time to set goals, to ask for what you want to receive from the day all the days following.

As a new year approaches, we are all invited to come together in celebration. But are we consciously aware of what we are celebrating? Yes, we are celebrating the bringing in of a new year, but why not dig a little deeper? Why not take a little time for some reflection. To be thankful for all that this year has brought us. All your successes and most importantly your failures and how you really managed to overcome them. How did you change this year? What were some of your best memories, and what do you want to leave behind? How are you being called to step into the new year as the best and brightest version of yourself that you can possibly be? Dream big!

New beginnings are not just about the start to a new weak… or a new year for that matter. It could be the sprouting of a new relationship, or the end to something that you have been longing to release and move forward from. It could mean freedom from what holds you down. It could mean making a choice to start fresh. To let go of what holds you down and to reach for the stars with all that you have to offer. New beginnings are a beautiful wonder. If we only welcomed in change and let go of what is meant to pass, we can truly feel the grandness of a new beginning.

Bespoke Health

As daunting as they may sometimes seem, new beginnings can bring about such growth in oneself that is quite a marvel to see. It could be a start to an entirely new and exciting chapter of your life, bringing in new opportunities, a miracle or two and fabulous learning curves. I once read that “life is the messy bits”, I now understand what that means. In order to reach these fabulous new beginnings, we must overcome what troubles us. To be able to release the troubles and close the door on them. Only then can we truly open a brand new door to a room that is filled with magic.

Resistance creates a kind of chaos within us. Allow life to move with the ebb and flow of change. We must let go and flow. Learn and grow! When we resist the closing of the old, of what no longer serves us… we are choosing to remain stagnant in an ever flowing world. We resist the beauty and actually close the door on the lovely new beginnings that await us. If only someone were there to guide us and show us what we were missing out on by choosing to stay in a place which was meant to pass by naturally. To welcome in the glorious new and step in with love. But let me tell you, we are our own best guides. No one can guide you as well as you can guide yourself. Only we know what feels good to us and what doesn’t. What feels good IS good. And what doesn’t feel good, what causes resistance within you… well maybe it is calling on you to reflect on it, how does it make you feel? Do you want to continue feeling this way? Are you ready to make the changes to step out of the old and step into to grand new? It is up to you! Allow the beauty in and allow what no longer serves to pass by. Wish it well and on it’s way.

Wishing everyone a beautiful new year, one that brings ease and flow, with beauty and love and most of all, a year where we really learn to shine in our own authentic and unique way! 🙂

Riding The Waves

Nolan Omura

Some say that venturing under the ocean is like entering an entirely new world. The beauty and magic that lies along the sea bed is quite and truly spectacular, yet so vast and unknown. What I would like to shed some light on in this little ramble is what is experienced on the surface of the ocean. The waves that flow ever so marvellously. The push and pull. Much like the waves that experience magnificent highs and lows, we do too.

As we float on the surface of the ocean, we begin to really embody the essence of flow. As the waves move upward, so do we. And as they ripple on down, we move with them. The challenge often occurs when we resist such sensation. The highs and the lows will most definitely come and go. That is what it is to be a wave, and that is what it is to be human. Dare I say… being a human and living a life on earth is an entirely courageous act. And we should be ever so gentle with ourselves for it. Because however fantastical it may be to experience the emotional highs, courageously welcoming in the lows are what make us so beautifully balanced and brave. For we are not afraid to feel discomfort. We are not afraid of hardship. We stand tall and flow with the waves. And that is when we truly learn what it is like to ride the waves. To live life as an exciting adventure. One so very enchanting.

A very important lesson that I recently had the opportunity to learn was that no matter how far behind we may think we have stumbled, we are still on the path moving forward. I have been very mislead by the phrase “one step forward, two steps back” over the years. I now realise that we are never going backwards. Always moving forwards. We may feel at times, as though we are moving backwards due to the low we are experiencing, or the feeling of “I’m back to square one”. But if it were not for the low, we would not have that extra boost to really bounce back and experience an even greater high. And that is the essence of growth. To expand. To become aware that no matter what you may feel or experience, you are ever moving beautifully forward. It may not be a straight line forward, there may be countless detours along the way, but even the detours are pushing us forward along a beautiful path of growth!

Breathing, just like waves is an ever expanding and contracting, a rising and falling. You get shallow breathing, and deep breathing, just as you do in the waters. And as you get choppy waters and calm/still waters, you get shortness of breathe as compared to still and relaxed breathing. Breathing is a magical practice, one that comes so easily to us, yet it is often taken for granted. Allowing our awareness to focus on the feeling of drawing breath in and out of our bodies. How it fills us up, and really keeps us alive! We could all be grateful that we have the ability to breathe, we can live without a lot of things… but could we live without our breathe? For if it were not for our breathe, we would not be roaming this earth. So let’s take a moment to really appreciate our breathe. Take notice of it, be mindful of it and start to expand our awareness on our breathe, the way we breathe through life’s up’s and down’s. How mastering our breathing can change the way we live our lives!

So let’s enjoy riding life’s many beautiful waves and really take a moment to notice the beauty of it all! Warm wishes always 🙂