Going Inwards 🌀

The path to success lies in the path to going within yourself. To heal every inch of yourself and every cell in your being. To learn to love yourself, so that you can truly love others. When you go inwards, you are committing to yourself. You are valuing and respecting yourself enough to take valuable time and investing it in you. And as you start to do that, you reap the rewards! 

Going inwards can look like journalling your thoughts and feelings each day, getting to know yourself, your likes and dislike, the parts of you that you are proud off and the parts of you that you would like to improve on. 

To some going inwards could mean coming out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there, only to find more of yourself. Challenging yourself, and telling yourself that the discomfort of not doing it so far greater than the discomfort of actually doing it. However, for others it may look like sitting in silence, spending time with yourself to really get to know your true self without the added layers.

Going inwards means acknowledging where you are on your journey, whilst creating space for who you want to become. Working on yourself each and every day. Because instead of committing to a job, you are committing to yourself. And in doing so, you may just attract your dream job! A job that ticks all the boxes, that opens some really wonderful doors for you and a life that you wake up to with a smile each and every day! 

So why not go within? So many of us seek external validation, reassurance, love, happiness. The idea is to find it within ourselves. Learn to validate ourselves. To be accepting of each and every part of ourselves so that if someone else doesn’t like it, we aren’t as knocked down as we would have been. We wouldn’t change ourselves just to appease someone else. We can understand that we are not for everyone and not everyone is for us. To seek to reassure ourselves and love ourselves inside and out, because if you don’t love yourself, are you truly happy and satisfied? True happiness is found from within too. Take the time to befriend yourself. To be with yourself, laugh at your own jokes, read to yourself, dance alone, cook a delicious meal for yourself or even get dressed up for you. Because at the end of the day, no one is going to do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. Of course you will have loved ones and friends, and of course cherish them! But be alright with being by yourself, because that is where your true power lies! To say that I don’t need you in my life, but I would love  to have you in my life, and therefore it works! To be perfectly independent…together! 

So let’s really dive deep within ourselves. Get to know ourselves on a higher level. To figure out the parts of us that still need resolution, the parts that need to be acknowledged and the parts that need to be healed. To become aware is the very first step, and then you can work on either releasing what no longer serves you, or work on bettering yourself, FOR yourself! Because at the end of the day… it is you who you are living with. We spend most of our time with ourselves and so why not prioritise building a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves first? We are our own best guides. Let’s work on being a person who feels good about themselves, excited for each day and in alignment with our true essence. 

I look forward to hearing all your your journey’s to going inwards! Warmth and hugs always 🙂

Making Joy a Priority!


The power of feeling GOOD! It is such an amazing feeling. To feel energised, alive and in a sense of just being. So few of us actually allow ourselves this state of being because we are so focussed on things that don’t necessarily make us feel… well good! When you start to prioritise feeling good, feeling excited, feeling aligned and joyful, you start to attract things into your life that align with those feelings!!!

So the first step is NOT to find something to make you feel good externally, it is to find it within yourself and let go of all that surrounds you. Let it come and go…. and flow! You will start to notice that when you let go of the externalities of your life and focus on how you feel within, your external environment will start to flow so magically! Aligning with what you feel within. So start to cultivate joy, excitement, feeling good! And you will start to reap the rewards of these feelings. New opportunities will enter your life, new relationships, people, things! The possibilities are endless. So start now and welcome it all in with open arms! It is a fabulous experience, to commit to feeling joy, because that is essentially what you are asking for and what you WILL receive.

So… how do we cultivate joy? How do we prioritise joy? So that we can welcome in joyful circumstances into our lives? It is quite simple, but requires consistency. Start by meditating. Meditating is so wonderful, it helps you become aware of your inner world, how you are feeling, the causes behind those feelings and how to release what is not serving you! Gabrielle Bernstein’s meditation on cultivating joy is a definite must to listen to! I highly recommend it. What makes you feel joyful? Is it music, dancing, cooking? Spend time with people who make you FEEL good!

Feeling joy is great but you will also want to align your actions with this intention. Telling all, that this is how I want to feel, and this is what I am going to do about it. The rest I let go off… what I cannot control. And I ask that I receive a joy beyond my wildest of dreams! A joy that engulfs every cell in my body and energises me to no end! Let it go. Breath into the feeling and breathe it out, put it out there so that when it bounces back to you, it bounces back ten fold! Be patient, and be certain of your outcome. You are attracting joy, it will come! Have faith and believe that it’s on it’s way to you, for you. And so it is!

Holding onto the joy. Sometimes we feel joyful fleetingly. It comes and then goes. But how do we keep it with us? The key is to let it go. Put it out there. Breathe the joy in as you inhale and on your exhale let it go! Do not try to control the feeling and keep it with you because you will be contracting and limiting yourself, when our goal is expansion! In order to expand we must be alright with feeling the range of feelings that are out there. But our goal… is to make joy the most prominent. For us to come back to joy always. For joy to be the baseline of our emotions and feelings. So let it go, with the intention that it will come back to you ten fold and believe me it will!

Visualise a bright purple bubble of joy washing over you filling your cells up with a beautiful and buzzing feeling of excitement, happiness, feeling good, alignment and JOY! As you breathe in visualise the bright purple integrating with each and every part of your body, and as you exhale feel it washing over you, spreading through and through. Tap into that feeling, uplift yourself and bask in it. For joy is a wonderful feeling, one so powerful and beautiful that you just cannot not prioritise it in your life!

I look forward to hearing all about how you cultivate and prioritise joy in your beautiful lives! Love, warmth and happiness always 🙂



Your Needs Vs. The Needs Of Others

If you do not take care of yourself, how are you to even begin to take care of another? Kindness, generosity and giving for others can only go so far, learning to give that to yourself is key. When we take care of our needs, we are able to give far more to others than if we do not take care of ourselves. Selflessness works to an extent, however we must remind ourselves that it is ok to be selfless toward ourselves too. Take some time to really go inwards. Ask yourself what you want, what are your needs to feel balanced, fulfilled, loved, nurtured, supported and guided. Then come up with creative ways in which you can give that to yourself.

There is a beautiful shift that takes place when you take care of yourself. When you set healthy boundaries for yourself out of love and compassion. To heal yourself, so that you can heal others. Because would you not be doing others a disservice by not reaching your full potential first? Wouldn’t you want then to receive the full power of your healing? In order to give that, you need to put yourself first. You need to make yourself a priority and invest your time, effort, love and hard work into yourself. To heal yourself, break up all the limitations and all the blocks within yourself so that you can let go and flow, learn and grow!

And sometimes putting yourself first upsets others. They turn to you to feel good, to feel joy and find support. And when you don’t give it to them, it causes a sort of disconnect between the two of you. And that is alright. Because the truth is that no one is going to take care of you in a way that you can take care of yourself. So you putting yourself first, may cause distance and discomfort in some of your relationships, but it also teaches others to go within themselves too. If they cannot find the love and support that they need from you, it is encouraging them to look within themselves too! And hopefully that will trigger their own inner growth and healing. Sometimes we just need to put ourselves first.

And of course we feel guilty for doing something for ourselves, knowing it may cause discomfort/disconnect in our relationships. We may also feel undeserving of it. But is that a healthy reason not to do it? Putting yourself first does not mean that you are doing something wrong, even if someone else gets upset by it. It just means that you are taking care of yourself, going after your dreams and making the most out of the life that you have been blessed with. As long as you do everything with love and gentleness, with good intentions, there is no need to feel guilty for it. It is what is of the best and highest good of all. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, and even if it makes some people upset.

Something I find difficult to accept is knowing someone you care for is going through a difficult situation, and knowing that they need to experience it in order to learn what they need to learn. My instinct would be to want to take away their troubles and make them feel good. BUT, the truth is… that when they don’t learn what they have to from that experience, another situation just like it will come into their lives and another and another, until they learn what they are meant to learn from it. So by trying to take their pain away, you are doing a disservice to them, as it is their journey and their path to go on, to feel, to learn and to grow from. All we can do is to be there and help them help themselves. To offer tools and practices that they could benefit from.

So take care of yourself! Know that everyone has to go through what they have to go through, there is ALWAYS a silver lining and it IS for the best even when it doesn’t feel like it! 🙂

Riding The Waves

Nolan Omura

Some say that venturing under the ocean is like entering an entirely new world. The beauty and magic that lies along the sea bed is quite and truly spectacular, yet so vast and unknown. What I would like to shed some light on in this little ramble is what is experienced on the surface of the ocean. The waves that flow ever so marvellously. The push and pull. Much like the waves that experience magnificent highs and lows, we do too.

As we float on the surface of the ocean, we begin to really embody the essence of flow. As the waves move upward, so do we. And as they ripple on down, we move with them. The challenge often occurs when we resist such sensation. The highs and the lows will most definitely come and go. That is what it is to be a wave, and that is what it is to be human. Dare I say… being a human and living a life on earth is an entirely courageous act. And we should be ever so gentle with ourselves for it. Because however fantastical it may be to experience the emotional highs, courageously welcoming in the lows are what make us so beautifully balanced and brave. For we are not afraid to feel discomfort. We are not afraid of hardship. We stand tall and flow with the waves. And that is when we truly learn what it is like to ride the waves. To live life as an exciting adventure. One so very enchanting.

A very important lesson that I recently had the opportunity to learn was that no matter how far behind we may think we have stumbled, we are still on the path moving forward. I have been very mislead by the phrase “one step forward, two steps back” over the years. I now realise that we are never going backwards. Always moving forwards. We may feel at times, as though we are moving backwards due to the low we are experiencing, or the feeling of “I’m back to square one”. But if it were not for the low, we would not have that extra boost to really bounce back and experience an even greater high. And that is the essence of growth. To expand. To become aware that no matter what you may feel or experience, you are ever moving beautifully forward. It may not be a straight line forward, there may be countless detours along the way, but even the detours are pushing us forward along a beautiful path of growth!

Breathing, just like waves is an ever expanding and contracting, a rising and falling. You get shallow breathing, and deep breathing, just as you do in the waters. And as you get choppy waters and calm/still waters, you get shortness of breathe as compared to still and relaxed breathing. Breathing is a magical practice, one that comes so easily to us, yet it is often taken for granted. Allowing our awareness to focus on the feeling of drawing breath in and out of our bodies. How it fills us up, and really keeps us alive! We could all be grateful that we have the ability to breathe, we can live without a lot of things… but could we live without our breathe? For if it were not for our breathe, we would not be roaming this earth. So let’s take a moment to really appreciate our breathe. Take notice of it, be mindful of it and start to expand our awareness on our breathe, the way we breathe through life’s up’s and down’s. How mastering our breathing can change the way we live our lives!

So let’s enjoy riding life’s many beautiful waves and really take a moment to notice the beauty of it all! Warm wishes always 🙂

Overcoming Fear

Let’s start by asking ourselves one simple question. What is fear and how does it keep us from living our spectacular lives?! Fear is an emotion we feel when there is a threat of danger, harm or pain. Fear is evolutionarily ingrained in our DNA and was once quite a useful and helpful tool for us to fend off the dangers that once were, many years ago. But now as our threat for danger decreases, our mind plays tricks on us. We perceive danger in different ways such as talking to a stranger… or sitting an exam. There is no actual danger to our lives here, yet we perceive them as such. And if we were to go anywhere near a situation similar to that, it would feel life threatening. However, there is hope for us yet!!!

The first step to overcoming fear is awareness. Becoming aware of what sparks our fears is pivotal in allowing ourselves the time to release them. So what are you afraid of? And what made you so afraid of it? Can you recall any situations in your life which strengthened your fears? Once you have acknowledged where it comes from and why it is so prominent, we can start to change the story behind the fears. We can begin to go beyond the fears, for that is where our true powers lie! It is beautifully freeing to be able to release the hold that fear has on us. And that does not mean that fear will be gone forever. No, we will still feel it, however we will feel it like any other emotion that comes our way. And we will allow it to pass naturally instead of storing the fear in our bodies and letting them build and fester.

In order to over come fear, we have to learn how to sit with discomfort. Allow yourself to feel all of it. And then with love, we release it. We breathe into the fear, into the feelings and as we breathe out we feel it being released from our bodies. Creating space for calm to take its place. Somewhere along the line, almost all of us have learned that pain, fear etc are emotions that we want to avoid, not feel. But what we have to realise is that there has to be a balance of both the good and the so called ‘bad’ emotion. In my opinion there is no such thing as bad emotions. I feel, we have to experience the bad to really feel the good. They both go hand in hand. SO let’s switch our perception on fear as being a bad emotion. Let’s look at it as a lesson that we are being called to learn from. Fear often pops up when we need to break free from certain barriers that have been created around us. We are being called to become aware of these barriers and either go through them or climb over them! Either way, we are moving past them and moving forwards with our lives. Not giving the fear any power and allowing ourselves to reach our full potential. Allowing this fear to teach us to go beyond it and expand rather than staying within it and constricting.

For example, fear of loss can be a tough one to face. We get comfortable in our lives, and the people that are around us. We tend to get overly attached to them and start to cling on to them. It takes great courage to find the strength within ourselves to be able to consciously learn to detach from the people that we are afraid of losing and fill that space with freedom. To say “I release this unhealthy need for attachment that I hold for you and replace it with love and freedom” You have to find it within yourself to accept that nothing is certain in life, try to find the beauty in that, and come home to the fact that you live every moment to the fullest, don’t take anything for granted, and cherish all that you have now in this present moment. For you don’t know how long you will have it. Find the strength within yourself to know that even if you lost what or who you cherish most in the world, you WILL rise up again. You WILL move forward and you WILL keep going, expand, learn and grow.

Every year a tree will start to shed their leaves come autumn as they are stripped bare in the wet and cold. It takes tremendous courage, strength and bravery, and yet every year their leaves fall. However, come spring we see magic appear as the tiny leaves start to sprout and new growth emerges in all its beauty and wonder. These majestic trees start to blossom and bloom once again! Swaying in the wind, with an array of gorgeous colours shining bright! And once again, it all comes down to perspective and choice. You can choose to focus on your leaves being striped bare leaving you cold, wet and alone… OR you could understand that it is a vital part of experiencing the life that we lead. That in order to experience the magic, we need to strip ourselves bare sometimes, feel what we need to feel… and then rebuild our glorious selves into beautiful beings of love and light! It is a wonderful process if only we don’t focus on the difficult and focus on the wondrous outcome.

So focus on the good and know that you cannot have the good without a little bit of the bad. Change your perspective on the bad! It does not have to be negative, switch it around! Get creative and have fun through all your experiences, for that is what it means to truly be alive!

He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life

Ralph Waldo Emerson

With immense love, I wish you the warmest of wishes!