Control, the art of influencing a course of events, or your behaviour. Most of us humans find comfort and security in control. The idea of knowing that things are going to go a certain way. We like structure and routine. Because without that, where is our discipline and purpose? We can control how we choose to live our lives, our habits, our relationships and our mood. However what about the things that we cannot control? Such as life and death, the weather, a natural calamity etc. These are far from our control, and if you give it enough thought, it can seem quite scary to some of us.
There is no way to control some things. No matter how much we try, how much effort we put into trying, it is out of our control. We may feel lost, helpless or alone due to this. But when we start to accept that some things are out of our control… a certain sense of freedom sets in. A sort of relief. You can let go, live in the present moment. For right now… all is well and I am very hopeful that it continues to be. That is what we CAN do. We can choose how we respond to situations beyond our control. To trust and have faith that no matter what, I will rise, I will grow and I will shine!
So let go of what you cannot control. See the beauty in it. Yes, anything can happen and perhaps we could find the beauty in knowing that too. The possibilities, new opportunities, life! Focus on the now and trust that you can get through anything and everything that comes your way. Stand strong and find the courage and bravery within yourself to accept this and just be. Be your best self. The version of you that feels good. That feels alive! Because some of life’s struggles are much easier to face when you feel good, when you embody your truest nature.
Letting go of control is hard. Especially with regard to things that you are very strongly and emotionally attached to. But it helps to know that… whatever happens is beyond my control. I hope for the best. And I know that what is meant to be, will be. Where there is loss, gain shortly follows. Allow yourself the space and time to feel this, to find a sense of freedom in it. To allow yourself a moment to take yourself out of the picture and realise that sometimes, it is not about us at all. To say, this is beyond my control and a part of the grand scheme of things, and I accept it and welcome it in with love! Don’t be afraid of change. We often get stuck in our ways, but change offers us growth to shine brighter than we ever have before! We get to experience more love, more beauty, more joy and more excitement!
Instead of trying to control the uncontrollable, we can redirect all that energy into things that we can control. Set healthy habits for yourself. What am I putting into my body and is it healthy? How is my sleep schedule and do I need to adjust it? Are my relationships healthy and what am I going to do about them? We can choose to control the little things, like what we wear today or what book to read tomorrow. Find joy in these things. Allow life to flow through you and have faith in yourself and your abilities. If push comes to shove and you are faced with a difficult situation, you CAN and WILL get through it. You can look back and think to yourself “I’m glad that that happened, for if I hadn’t gone through it, I wouldn’t have all that I have now or be where I am today”.
So control the things that you know you have control over, and begin to let go of what you cannot control. Know that it is not your job nor your responsibility to control those things. Allow yourself some time and be gentle with yourself too. Nurture yourself as a loving mother would do for their child. Be patient with yourself, allow yourself a safe space to really feel through all the emotions that come your way and gently move through them. Accept the ever flowing changes and choose to see the beauty in them!
I wish you well and hope that you can find the beauty and freedom in our ever winding, ever flowing and ever loving unique journeys!