Growth 🌱

Growth and healing go hand in hand. The thing about growth is that it’s not always easy. Most of the time its messy, overwhelming, heartbreaking and incredibly transforming. But that’s what makes it growth. Because it has the ability to push you so far out of your comfort zone that whichever direction you go, you are well and truly growing and most importantly expanding! It takes alot of strength and courage to be able to be faced with a choice between staying within your comfort zone… or going the path of growth and choosing the latter.

Growth does not always look like picking up the pieces and putting yourself back together. Sometimes growth is shattering your whole being in order to rebuild yourself into the newest and truest version of you, you could be.

And for all those that think or feel like they are alone on their journey, just know that you are not the only ones! Sometimes we are made to go through certain experiences on our own, we are put in situations where we are forced to go inwards rather than to seek external help. What we don’t realise is that we all have the answers that we are seeking within ourselves. And the path of loneliness sometimes has to be taken in order to become aware of the answers that lie within us. To be focussed on ourselves enough to notice what it is that we are meant to learn and how to build ourselves back up!

Uncomfortable situations are often uncomfortable because they have hit a soft spot within us that makes us feel that certain sense of discomfort. Growth teaches us strength! It teaches us resilience and to get back up and keep going. It allows ourselves to build the mental, physical and especially emotional stamina to be able to go through life with ease and flow, rather than pain and struggle. What we are being made to re-learn or re-evaluate is that we do not have to learn through struggle. It is a choice most of the time. And most of the time we choose to struggle because that is what we know and what we have been taught. But what if a simple change in our perception could allow us to flow through life with a certain sense of ease and comfort? Why not?! Who says we need to struggle. It all comes down to the way you look at life. A situation is a situation. It is ultimately our choice how we choose to react or respond to it. So we have a choice here. Either feel a negative emotion… or a positive one! This skill takes some practice, but oh how wonderful would it be to go through all of life’s many obstacles and experiences with ease? That is just the icing on the cake!

So growth. It all comes down to choice! Choose growth. Choose to flow through your growth with ease. Be open to the changes, for change is ALWAYS positive… even when it feels uncomfortable at the time. Change is what stimulates the growth. If we were to stay stuck, there would come a point where you may feel either suffocated or wanting to burst. So you could choose to change now, or wait for that bursting feeling. Either way change and growth are inevitable. So might as well go along with it, rather than resist. Because resistance is quite frankly a waste of time. Yes, sometimes resistance teaches us how to let go of control, but if we can become aware of the resistance within us, we can start to work on it. Work on creating more of a flow, allowing the blocks within us to fade away, piece by piece.

And growth does not always have to mean picking up a healthy routine or going to all your yoga classes. Sometimes growth is in the not eating healthy, not sleeping early and not taking care of ourselves. Sometimes it takes reaching a certain point to get to a space where the realisations come tumbling in and the love can flow through you effortlessly so that you can pick yourself up.

So however it goes, just know that you are doing the best you can do! Remind yourself of your courage and strength. Offer the feelings of pride and accomplishment for yourself. Because you are on a great path of healing. One few choose to take. Honour it, don’t judge it and most importantly, allow it.

Lots and lots of Love ❤

To New Beginnings!

Oleksandr Tereshchuk

As the famous quote goes “When one door closes, another door opens”. The possibilities, the change, the ability to really create something truly magnificent. Bringing in a new chapter to your life, what a grand celebration! New beginnings could be a chance to reflect on past choices/experiences and learn from them. To maybe do things differently, it could be creating healthier habits, or finding the courage to go after your dreams. It could even mean letting go of what holds you back so that you can finally reach your potential. The possibilities are endless.

A new beginning can look like a brand new day, the start of a new week and the excitement of a new year. Monday’s are commonly known to be dreaded but why? Why are Monday’s not celebrated and cherished?! For we are being blessed with yet another glorious week on this earth, in the ever so unique and lovely lives that we lead. So let’s take the time to cherish a Monday for a brand new start to what could be a great week. Monday’s could be a time to set goals, to ask for what you want to receive from the day all the days following.

As a new year approaches, we are all invited to come together in celebration. But are we consciously aware of what we are celebrating? Yes, we are celebrating the bringing in of a new year, but why not dig a little deeper? Why not take a little time for some reflection. To be thankful for all that this year has brought us. All your successes and most importantly your failures and how you really managed to overcome them. How did you change this year? What were some of your best memories, and what do you want to leave behind? How are you being called to step into the new year as the best and brightest version of yourself that you can possibly be? Dream big!

New beginnings are not just about the start to a new weak… or a new year for that matter. It could be the sprouting of a new relationship, or the end to something that you have been longing to release and move forward from. It could mean freedom from what holds you down. It could mean making a choice to start fresh. To let go of what holds you down and to reach for the stars with all that you have to offer. New beginnings are a beautiful wonder. If we only welcomed in change and let go of what is meant to pass, we can truly feel the grandness of a new beginning.

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As daunting as they may sometimes seem, new beginnings can bring about such growth in oneself that is quite a marvel to see. It could be a start to an entirely new and exciting chapter of your life, bringing in new opportunities, a miracle or two and fabulous learning curves. I once read that “life is the messy bits”, I now understand what that means. In order to reach these fabulous new beginnings, we must overcome what troubles us. To be able to release the troubles and close the door on them. Only then can we truly open a brand new door to a room that is filled with magic.

Resistance creates a kind of chaos within us. Allow life to move with the ebb and flow of change. We must let go and flow. Learn and grow! When we resist the closing of the old, of what no longer serves us… we are choosing to remain stagnant in an ever flowing world. We resist the beauty and actually close the door on the lovely new beginnings that await us. If only someone were there to guide us and show us what we were missing out on by choosing to stay in a place which was meant to pass by naturally. To welcome in the glorious new and step in with love. But let me tell you, we are our own best guides. No one can guide you as well as you can guide yourself. Only we know what feels good to us and what doesn’t. What feels good IS good. And what doesn’t feel good, what causes resistance within you… well maybe it is calling on you to reflect on it, how does it make you feel? Do you want to continue feeling this way? Are you ready to make the changes to step out of the old and step into to grand new? It is up to you! Allow the beauty in and allow what no longer serves to pass by. Wish it well and on it’s way.

Wishing everyone a beautiful new year, one that brings ease and flow, with beauty and love and most of all, a year where we really learn to shine in our own authentic and unique way! 🙂

Happiness… and where to find it!

Have you ever longed to be overwhelmingly happy? To go to bed excited for tomorrow and to wake up with a goofy grin on your face? Well you have come to the right place! Happiness begins and ends in the present moment. The illusion that a lot of us carry along with us is thinking that it will be found by either recalling past memories of happy times or thinking it will be found in the future. For example, by achieving your dream job, or going on that holiday that you have been longing for. Don’t get me wrong, those things are great! And of course they will make you feel good! But we are talking about true and long lasting happiness here. A kind of happiness that stems from within, that seeps into our bones, awakens every cell in our bodies and really brings us to life! One that doesn’t rely on the influence of our external environment. Now that… you can only find when you are living in the present moment.

If we don’t nourish ourselves in the present moment, how are we expected to flourish in our future?

Have a think about it. Really take the time to tap into yourself in the here and now. Connect with yourself. How are you feeling? What do you feel you are lacking? What is your body craving for that your mind is too stubborn to give it? What are a few things that you could do to come back to yourself and really ground yourself in the now? What makes you come alive? What allows you space and room to breath fresh! What brings you joy? And what makes you laugh? Try and do more of these things and trust me you will not be waiting for your next holiday or your next promotion to be happy. For as long as we search for long term happiness externally, we will not find it. Going inwards is the path that leads to being truly happy. So please please please search your unique self!

The brilliant thing is, that no matter how far you stray, you can ALWAYS come back and start anew. Yes, it may take more of an effort depending how far you actually venture from your true self, but it all starts within you. It starts with an intention to really do better for yourself. It comes down to a simple choice. Do I want to be happy right now? Most of us say yes, but do we really mean it? We need to commit ourselves to being happy, commit ourselves to the present moment. Choose happiness again and again and then really embody the essence of it.

See it as a habit that you’re building for yourself. It definitely takes a conscious effort to make bad habits. It takes an equal amount of effort to create healthy habits. Why not make happiness a lifestyle? So what makes you happy? What makes you excited about today, tomorrow, a week, a month or a year from now?! How are you being called to be happy?

For me personally, happiness begins when I have the time to reconnect with myself. We I am in tune and aligned with all parts of my being. When I take the time to take care of myself and treat myself as I would treat a loved one. And when I feel it lacking, I will often ask myself… What could I do right now, in this very moment that is going to uplift me? I wait for the answer to come to me and then get right on it! I absolutely love to cook, I love to get creative and I love to listen to the kind of music that makes each and every cell in my body come alive! These are a few simple tasks that give me joy throughout my day! It doesn’t have to become a major thing. If you could only take a few minutes out of your day, doing something for yourself… just because!

However… no matter what we do, sometimes our mood can tend to dip and it takes ALOT of self discipline or self love to pick ourselves up and do something that we know will make us feel better. I find that when I’m feeling down or unmotivated, exercise can be a brilliant tool to get your juices flowing! And it’s not like you have to run a marathon (amazing if you can!), all you have to do is around 10 minutes. Something to get your blood pumping. So that you can release all that stagnant energy in your body and create room for high vibes and some much needed love!

Another obstacle that I often face is focus. I sometimes find it hard to focus on just one task at hand. The all too familiar negative or worrying thought cycles come to life and I am too enraptured in the events playing out in my mind to focus on what I am actually trying to do, which is essentially being happy! So once again… it come down to choice. We are choosing to focus our attention off the thoughts that are not serving our highest good.

Mindfulness is a tool that most of us overlook, but do not underestimate the power of being mindful. I tell you, it changed my life for the better! Small practices of mindfulness every day can enhance our quality of life. Being aware of our daily duties such as brushing our teeth or making our bed can create such an awakening within ourselves. Hear the sound of the sheets rustling, touch the soft fabric against your fingertips, smell the fresh linen wafting up your nose, look at your clean freshly made bed with satisfaction and determination… for it will be a great great day! And sense your mouth watering for the delicious breakfast that awaits your system!!

So you see, happiness can be cultivated through everyday tasks, it just has to start from within yourself. It really is quite simple if you are willing to try!

I look forward to hearing about all of your journeys to happiness!!