You Are Whole.

We’ve all had those days… The ones where you don’t feel like getting up. Where you don’t feel like doing anything at all. When doing even the littlest thing can feel like climbing over a mountain. When you know what you need to do to get yourself out of this funk but you just can’t bring yourself to do it. When you feel that your are in this situation, it is important to understand and accept how you are feeling. How you feel is very valid. It is important to note what your body is trying to tell you, what your emotions are trying to tell you. When you acknowledge what you are feeling and get to the root of why you feel this way, you have won more than half the battle! And once you have pin pointed what and why you feel this way, you have given yourself the compassion and understanding that a very large part of you was craving deep down. When you acknowledge and accept, you are able to get out of your own way and let things flow through you as they naturally would.

We all go through those days, weeks and months! They are filled with growth and learning! When you start to become aware of why these situations are placed in your life, they start to get easier. When we listen, we can understand and when we understand, we can feel through it and move ever so on. Move on and forward with our lives, evolving, shining and loving bright!

We need to start to learning to love the process rather than focusing on the result. When we focus on the process, our reward is the beautiful result. So let’s bring some more awareness into our lives. What are situations among us here to bring to our attention? What do we need to really open our eyes to and see clearly? What can we let go of? And how can we let go of judgement and expand our view or perception of the world around us?

When we change the way we view things, we essentially change the way we feel and in turn change the way we live too. Our entire world starts to shift for the better. Just remember that only you can pick yourself up, only you can fill that void inside of you and only you can make yourself feel whole. It is important to understand that you are whole! You don’t need to look externally for that feeling. When you empower yourself to stand tall, you allow yourself to accept and acknowledge that you are very much and entirely whole as one.

When you feel lonely, when you feel a little bit less whole, it is important to acknowledge all the aspects of your life that make you feel that way, and start to incorporate ways in which you can nourish your inner being. To find ways to fill yourself up with an abundance of love and joy. So how can you do that for yourself? Some ways to nourish yourself could be being one with nature, exercising, practicing a hobby, going for a class you enjoy, being mindful, meditating, laughing, singing, dancing… and so on. When you feel lonely it is important to fill yourself up on the inside rather than searching for external sources, as while they may make you feel better for a little while, it sometimes tends to be a fleeting sensation. Wouldn’t it make you feel better to know that you could give that to yourself? While it is very important to also engage in external sources for happiness as we humans are social beings, it would be so lovely to also know that you are not relying on that entirely. You can handle it yourself, you’ve got this!

So I hope this makes you feel better and a little less lonely as you need to remind yourself that You Are Whole! Lots of love…

Finding Freedom 🕊️

Freedom, a word which is quite often underrated can quite possibly be the key to alot of breakthroughs! Freedom comes in many different forms and fashions, however understanding freedom and what it means to feel free is elite in itself. It is the power to think, act, feel how one wants without restraint. When searching deep within oneself, it’s important to factor in the term freedom. What does it mean? How do I feel about it? Have I ever known what freedom feels like? Then its important to ask yourself… Well do I feel free? What holds me back? What weighs on my shoulders and drags me down? What would it feel like if I were to be free from it? To unlock the chains that drag you down or hold you back?

The first step to finding freedom, would be to understand freedom. The feeling, the emotion, it’s symbolism, what aspects of your life you feel freedom and where you may lack it. Just like happiness and joy, freedom plays a huge role in finding meaning to life, in feeling uplifted and full of energy!

Some, I would call the worriers who worry themselves away into an endless loop of what if’s, doubts and maybe not’s. I know this cycle all too well and it’s easy to fall into this trap where thoughts take over and simultaneously have your emotions follow in its footsteps. Feeling fear, worry, doubt and maybe shame. How do you break the cycle? How do you break these chains that hold you back emotionally? I would say, it would be the art of finding freedom. Freedom from your thoughts, freedom from your emotions, just freedom in all that you do. One could say it is the freedom from identifying with the thoughts running through our minds or emotions flowing through our bodies that do not serve our highest good. It is more than a mindset, it is a lifestyle. To not only think freely, but to feel free and act with freedom. To have every action of your governed by love and freedom rather than fear or worry.

Growing up and living through our lives, we all experience a range of different experiences and situations. Some good, some bad and some absolutely beautiful. Whatever they may be, they all shape us. It is however our choice of how these situations mould us. Do we want them to hold us back? Or do we want to learn from them. To grow and expand and shine brighter than ever before because of them. From all of our experiences, it is only natural for us to from our own beliefs and perceptions about ourselves and the world around us. Some of these beliefs can be quite debilitating to our mental state. For example the “I’m not good enough” “What if I get rejected?” “Am I competent?” “I’d rather not because I’m scared…”. These are a few beliefs that limit us from reaching our full potential, from finding freedom.

The key to freeing ourselves is to become aware of these beliefs that we hold, to dig deep within ourselves, to figure out which emotions are triggered by which beliefs that we hold and whether they are serving our highest good or not. To ask yourself what kind of situations trigger these beliefs and how can I rewrite them to help change my perspective to a more positive and uplifting one. Essentially how can I free myself from the beliefs I hold that weigh me down?

Sometimes emotional baggage can be rough. It plays such a huge role in how we live our lives, the decisions that we make, and the path that we take. It is up to us to find the courage and confidence in our ability to be able to heal our emotions, to come to terms with our past and to learn that just because you experienced whatever you did in the past, does not mean it needs to influence your present OR your future. That is where you have the definitive choice. To either stay stuck in your past beliefs, experiences, feelings etc OR to free yourself from all that holds you back. From all that weighs on you.

For some of us, the courage to step out of our comfort zone can be quite a task. Even if our comfort zone may be a constant state of worry… or the inability to take beautiful risks. What if breaking out of your comfort zone means finding your freedom? What if it means finally freeing yourself from fear, from guilt, from shame, from self-criticism and from doubt and longing. Freedom can be a beautiful thing. If only more of us had the courage to strive for it. I certainly am trying and believe me, sometimes I feel it is the key to true happiness and abundance.

Freedom could even look like freedom from judgement, for example free from judging others but also from the judgement of others. In other words, this sort of freedom comes with a deep acceptance of oneself. Sort of saying “I completely love and accept myself” so whatever anyone else thinks of me is inconsequential. And of course when you love and accept yourself, it is a tiny bit easier to love and accept others for their truth and authenticity.

Let’s talk about freedom in relationships. To free yourself from the ever creeping toxicities that sometimes arise creating a rather unhealthy relationship. Freedom from jealousy, control and clinging are just a few. The real freedom comes from trust, compromise, communication, loyalty, compassion. The list goes on. To be free in a relationship is to be your authentic self, to live an authentic life and as a bonus, to have the addition of someone to share your life with. So that they do not take away from you, yet you do not take away from them. The idea that you do not need each other to exist, rather you want and chose to be with each other. I find a sort of beauty in that. It feels uplifting and nourishing rather than stifling and lacking.

Finding freedom from your inner critic is a important too. We all have that one voice in our heads telling us off, or shouting at us for what we did or didn’t do. For our regrets, for what we feel shameful for. It can be hard to live with that kind of inner roommate. The first step in this case is to acknowledge that you are not alone. This is a common issue, and so many are governed by this inner critic. But why? If only we could adopt a kinder, more nurturing and compassionate voice. One that offers forgiveness for our mistakes and offer understanding for our shortcomings. Finding freedom from our inner critic, requires a constant awareness of our inner voice and what it is saying. How it is influencing our emotions and our actions as well. The whole idea is to recognise when your inner critic is on a role and to choose better for yourself. It is important to realise that we do have control over how we speak to ourselves! To be firm and demand better, more nurturing, more nourishment, more love. And who better to give it to you than yourself!

So I hope this little piece, helps and guides you into the beautiful journey of finding ones freedom. Whatever that may be or feel for you. Whether it’s going for a swim, practicing a martial art, painting, practicing a hobby, being in nature, adopting a completely different lifestyle, changing your mindset, or even taking space from an environment that holds you back. Whatever it may be, I wish you all the very best and hope that more people have the wonderful opportunity of being free.

Fearlessly Unafraid.

To be fearless. To live your life unapologetically and reach your highest potential. To be unafraid and free from what holds you back. Imagine a world in which we are both fearlessly unafraid! How utterly magical.

In a way… to be unafraid is to own your inner power so completely that you feel no one can take it away from you. To find freedom from the discomfort of not having control in situations. To know that you DO have control over your own inner power and what you do with it. So why do we so frequently invalidate our inner strength or give our power away so freely? There comes a great sense of peace and courage when one experiences their own inner power. To be confident in knowing that you can get through anything and everything and come out of it shining brighter than ever. To be thankful for situations that test your own inner strength so that you learn not to give it away.

So let talk about the ways in which we give our power away and how to empower ourselves to stand tall, and in a way… to be fearlessly unafraid. That does not necessarily mean that we may not feel fear. Fear may be a frequent emotion just like any other, however we do not have to give in to that fear. We do not allow fear to take our power away from us. We can witness the fear from within and courageously carry on regardless.

More often than not, certain beliefs we hold about ourselves can lead to us giving our power away. Whether it be a belief that ‘you are not good enough’ or a comparison such as ‘she is smarter or prettier than me’. In order to own our own power we must look within ourselves and learn to find a deep acceptance of who we are through and through. To say, these are my strengths and these are my weak areas. And when you start to compare yourself to another, just know that their strengths may highlight your weak areas, but your strengths may highlight that parts of them that are not as strong! Everyone has their own uniqueness. It is important to look within and find your own and start to nourish those parts of yourself, but most importantly nourish the parts of you where you may feel you are lacking. To accept yourself as a whole, to value yourself enough to know that you are invincible. To call home all the parts of you that strayed away and to let go of all parts of you that just do not fit your authentic self.

Fear often takes away our sense of empowerment. We feel a lack of control, a deep sense of discomfort for a situation that we feel has no solution. Our minds take over, creating scenarios and different possibilities. The overthinking, the worry, it’s an honest endless cycle that starts as we let fear take our inner power away. But what if we learned to sit with the situation. What if we witnessed our fear and allowed it to pass naturally? What if we stood up to the fear, to say “I will get through this no matter what” “I am thankful for this situation as it is only teaching me to shine brighter and brighter”. When you change your perception, It changes the way you feel. So let’s stand tall and own our strength. To know that we are capable and competent. We can stand tall through storms and pick up the pieces, only to build ourselves up into something even more spectacular to begin with.

In some cases, fear often holds us back from being our truest and most authentic selves. Sometimes it holds us back from reaching our fullest potential and not knowingly we give in to this fear and let it govern our actions. So why not as your read this, look at this as a call to become conscious of all the aspects of your life that are governed by fear. Ask yourself, what you would do differently if fear was not the governing factor? How would you change your lifestyle? Would you travel more? Would you take up public speaking? Would you go on a date? Would you take up learning something new? And there could be alot of things that fear holds you back from. So it really is up to us to just decide to be fearlessly unafraid. To know what you want and work towards it. To do certain things that do feel slightly fearful, as when you face your fears, you claim your power back. It may be difficult to knowingly put yourself through that discomfort but the results are SO very worth it. To learn to build courage, bravery, confidence and most importantly freedom.

So let’s not let fear lead the way, let us be guided by our inner strength, our inner freedom and our inner sense of deep empowerment. We are strong and resilient beings. Remind yourself of who your are and what you are made of. I know you are strong enough to face your fears and I look forward to hearing your journey to becoming fearlessly unafraid! Love always…

A Love Letter To Me

Dear Me,

I just wanted to let you know how truly and uniquely special you are. You are one of a kind, authentically and truly you! And I’ve never been prouder of anyone for just that. You are remarkably brave and courageous and I am in awe of this beauty within you.

You shine your light on everything you touch… and you touched my heart. I wake up every morning happy for another day I get to spend with you and go to sleep excited for tomorrow, yet another magical day awaits.

With you by my side, I feel unstoppable. I can do anything and so I dream big and reach for the stars because I know that with you by my side, I can do it.

Dear Me, you are beautiful, you are kind, and it is in your gentleness that I find strength. I look forward to each day… as I get to know more of you, I get to discover and re-discover things about you. I pay attention to every beautiful detail about you because you are truly and spectacularly beautiful. I love to learn with you, I love to change and flow with you, to go through the up’s and down’s with you, for I know that with you by my side I really can get through anything.

Dear Me, thank you for being raw. authentic. you. I know that you encourage others to do the same and for that I am grateful.

Thank you for teaching me love, loyalty, honesty, humility, kindness, compassion, acceptance and so much more.

I love the way you express yourself, I love your flaws as much as your perfections… and everything in between.

I just wanted to tell you how lucky I truly feel to be close to you and to live through life with you, so I say I love you. I’m in love with the life that we lead. The ebb and flow of each waking moment.

So dear Me, this is a reminder to you that You are special, You are good enough, You do belong. So follow your passions, use your gifts for the greater good and most importantly shine your light so effervescently that it brightens up everyones day as I know it does mine.

Dear Me, I love you. All I ask is you keep being uniquely you 💖

Love,

Me

The L Word.

Loss is a touchy subject for almost all of us. It is never easy, to loose something that you care very deeply for and hold close to your heart. But then again… loss is a part of life, and one of the many lessons we learn as we go along our journeys. Everyone at some point in their lives has to face some form of loss. It could look like the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job… and it does not necessarily have to do with the passing of a being. It could just mean that someone you cared about used to be in your life, taking up so much of it… now leaving you a little empty. But life goes on, and eventually we learn to move with it. To flow naturally and stop resisting the rhythm of it. So why do we resist so much? Why are we so wrapped up in grief when we lose certain things in our lives?

We human beings are accustomed to getting comfortable in our routines. We like structure and get comfortable in our lives. So much so that when we experience a drastic shift/change, we tend to feel off balance. So learning to embrace change is the number one take away. Learn to embrace the fact that nothing in life is really certain. As you lose, you soon gain too. Look past the loss and remember that life is ever changing and ever flowing. You were not the same person you were yesterday, you are ever-changing too. So trust in the fact that as your external situations change, you can and WILL change with them and that is not a bad thing! So just embrace it, love it and live through it in the present moment. 

Trust and have faith that you can handle ANYTHING that life throws at you. You are a strong being. Remember that life does not and will not give you anything that you cannot handle. Remember that and keep pushing on until you can start to flow and really grow. Have faith in your own ability to be able to stand strong and be independent. To know that you can take care of yourself. You can be there for yourself through thick and thin and that things will get better!

“I accept who I am and look forward to the person I am becoming”

“I accept where I am and look forward to where I am going”. 

So what can you learn from the situation? What is the situation trying to teach you? Because life is just one big lesson beautifully unfolding in front of us. So what are you being called to become aware of? How does it make you feel? And what can you do to heal from it and get through it? These are crucial and vital questions to ask yourself when dealing with loss. 

And you most likely will not ever be the same person you were before you experienced the loss. And that is not a bad thing. Let it shape you, let it change you, allow yourself to grow from it and really expand from it. 

And if ever you feel abandoned, it’s important to note that it is not YOU! There is nothing wrong with you. You ARE lovable, you ARE good enough, and you ARE beautifully and uniquely one of a kind. And if people left you along the way, they are just detours in the right direction. Because they were never meant to stay in your life! So think of them leaving as blessings! “Thank you for showing me what is not meant for me and creating space for what is!” When we allow ourselves to think in this way, we are levelling up our self worth, self respect and self value. We are taking care of ourselves and genuinely wanting better, seeking better. And it WILL come and you will then tell yourself, “thank god those people are not in my life any longer, for if they were I would never have met these amazingly special people that ARE right for me!”  

Letting go can be tough! We are all too familiar with the internal battle we face between wanting to hold on, but needing to move on. Learning to put ourselves first can really help with that. To know that “This is what is best for me in the long run even if it feels extremely painful in the present moment”. To love yourself enough to do what is right by you… and sometimes that means making the hard decisions. 

Loss can take so many forms, losing friends along the way, dealing with a breakup, the passing of a loved one or an animal, it could also be giving up something that was once valuable to you. The healing process differs for each and every one of us. It could depend on the situation, who you are as a person and how you deal with loss in general. So be unapologetic about how you feel. Feel all the emotions, grieve the loss, find healthy ways to cope, that will help you get through the difficult time because the first step is essentially sitting with the raw emotions stirring deep within yourself. But as the wound stops bleeding, it starts to heal. And with time, love and compassion towards yourself, you start to move on. Moving on with your life is wildly courageous and tremendously commendable because you choose to honour your loss by re-learning how to be in the world without that person/thing that meant, and may still or always mean alot to you. 

So I just wanted to say that you are fabulous, you are doing the best that you can, and I have every faith in you.. You can get through this! 

Self Love 🌸

Love comes in so many different forms, however self love is sometimes the best kind of love there is. The feeling of being completely filled up with pure joy and happiness. Why? Because you choose yourself. You choose to love yourself so unconditionally that you don’t need to look to external sources for love. You have it within. Take a moment to understand the stability that creates for you. To not be dependant on another for affection, reassurance or validation. You can give it to yourself! You are more than deserving, so let’s start to believe in it and ourselves! We are ALL special. It’s time to start to ask your self, why am I special. Make a list, feel it, and then embody all the reasons why you are so very special. It’s time to start loving ourselves alot more now!

Self love is the key to attracting all that you deserve. Love. To be able to love yourself unconditionally. To feel whole and stand tall from within yourself. To know your strengths and find beauty in the aspects in which you may feel you lack. A sort of perfect imperfection. Our imperfections are our unique characteristics, without them… we would not be us.

Most of us are so happy to give our love away to our family, friends, pets etc. But have we ever stopped to think about ourselves? Why are we so free and open to give it to others and not ourselves? Can we take a moment to compare how you treat a loved one… say your pet dog/spouse/sibling/parent to how you treat yourself? Are you as kind, compassionate and caring? Do you buy yourself special presents? Do you take care of your own body with good food, good sleep, good activity and lots of self love kind of thoughts? In most cases we are so very critical and hard on ourselves, constantly putting ourselves down. But what does that do but dull our spirits? When we realise what we are doing and consciously try to do and be better for ourselves, we see that inevitably we can even love others MORE when we love ourselves so beautifully.

Sometimes we give away our love to those who don’t reciprocate. This can create alot of feelings of being unworthy, unlovable etc. Just because someone you care for cannot feel the same about you does NOT mean that there is anything wrong with you or that you are unlovable. It just means that it’s time to look within and give all that love you had for that person… to yourself! When you do that, you tend to attract the kind of people who will love you like you love yourself. So love yourself so much so that you cultivate a loving family around you too!

So how can you learn to cultivate a little bit of self love? To start off I think the most important would be to visualise someone you love, whether it be a family member, best friend, partner etc. Think about how you respond to them. How do you help them during crisis? How do you make an effort with them? How do you talk to them? How do you take care of them? My guess is that you do so pretty kindly, with compassion, understanding and lot’s of love. Now think about how you talk to yourself? How is that different from your loved one and what can we do to change that!! Can you truly and deeply love someone else unconditionally if you have yet to learn to love yourself?

One way to cultivate self love is to find things to do that make you feel whole and happy. It could be dancing in front of the mirror to your favourite tunes… or being goofy and making yourself laugh. Self love could look like making yourself a cup of tea to soothe your nerves or writing down all your thoughts and feelings in your journal. Maybe reading a book or watching a movie. Sleeping early or going out and having a good time. So figure out how you can love yourself more and really try to invest your time and effort into it!

I find that really taking the time to get to know yourself without other peoples judgment’s or influence really helps in learning and understanding more about who you are and what you need from yourself in order to completely fall in love with yourself. SO why not take some time each day to sit with yourself, talk to yourself. Think of it as taking yourself out on a date and getting to know who you truly are. The acceptance of your true self is another form of self love. To say “This is who I am and I am proud of it”. However, sometimes when we get to know ourselves we don’t always like who we are. We want to change. When we want to change for the better its always a good thing. To elevate ourselves by setting goals and reaching them. Turning bad habits into good ones. Although wanting to change the parts of yourself that you cannot, like your body… are certain aspects that you have to learn to love.

Loving your body is something most of us overlook. We take it for granted and feel as though we have had to settle for the bodies we have… especially after social media influence. However imagine your body had feelings, how do you think it would feel if you ignored its needs, constantly despised how it looked and failed to see gratitude for all the hard work it puts in for you to remain healthy and mobile. SO it’s time to appreciate! Appreciate the fact that your body is your number 1 mode of transport. It supports you, takes you from one place to another in clean strides like a well oiled machine. It processes and digests your food for you in the most efficient ways and it even feels all the wonderful emotions that flow through you! It is now time to appreciate our bodies for what they are! Love each and every cell and really take the time to listen to what your body needs from you. Because if you don’t take care of your body who will? Let’s love ourselves enough to take care of ourselves 🙂

No matter how we look, what our body type is, it was what was given to us. Instead of wishing we had a better body… let’s try to appreciate what we were given. Pay attention to the thoughts you have towards your body and then ask yourself, would you talk about the person you love the mosts body like you talk about your own? If not, then its time to start a more positive self talk!

Learning to love yourself is one of the most gratifying experiences and I am so excited for everyone who is on this path! I do hope you learn to love yourself so completely as you so very deserve!

Growth 🌱

Growth and healing go hand in hand. The thing about growth is that it’s not always easy. Most of the time its messy, overwhelming, heartbreaking and incredibly transforming. But that’s what makes it growth. Because it has the ability to push you so far out of your comfort zone that whichever direction you go, you are well and truly growing and most importantly expanding! It takes alot of strength and courage to be able to be faced with a choice between staying within your comfort zone… or going the path of growth and choosing the latter.

Growth does not always look like picking up the pieces and putting yourself back together. Sometimes growth is shattering your whole being in order to rebuild yourself into the newest and truest version of you, you could be.

And for all those that think or feel like they are alone on their journey, just know that you are not the only ones! Sometimes we are made to go through certain experiences on our own, we are put in situations where we are forced to go inwards rather than to seek external help. What we don’t realise is that we all have the answers that we are seeking within ourselves. And the path of loneliness sometimes has to be taken in order to become aware of the answers that lie within us. To be focussed on ourselves enough to notice what it is that we are meant to learn and how to build ourselves back up!

Uncomfortable situations are often uncomfortable because they have hit a soft spot within us that makes us feel that certain sense of discomfort. Growth teaches us strength! It teaches us resilience and to get back up and keep going. It allows ourselves to build the mental, physical and especially emotional stamina to be able to go through life with ease and flow, rather than pain and struggle. What we are being made to re-learn or re-evaluate is that we do not have to learn through struggle. It is a choice most of the time. And most of the time we choose to struggle because that is what we know and what we have been taught. But what if a simple change in our perception could allow us to flow through life with a certain sense of ease and comfort? Why not?! Who says we need to struggle. It all comes down to the way you look at life. A situation is a situation. It is ultimately our choice how we choose to react or respond to it. So we have a choice here. Either feel a negative emotion… or a positive one! This skill takes some practice, but oh how wonderful would it be to go through all of life’s many obstacles and experiences with ease? That is just the icing on the cake!

So growth. It all comes down to choice! Choose growth. Choose to flow through your growth with ease. Be open to the changes, for change is ALWAYS positive… even when it feels uncomfortable at the time. Change is what stimulates the growth. If we were to stay stuck, there would come a point where you may feel either suffocated or wanting to burst. So you could choose to change now, or wait for that bursting feeling. Either way change and growth are inevitable. So might as well go along with it, rather than resist. Because resistance is quite frankly a waste of time. Yes, sometimes resistance teaches us how to let go of control, but if we can become aware of the resistance within us, we can start to work on it. Work on creating more of a flow, allowing the blocks within us to fade away, piece by piece.

And growth does not always have to mean picking up a healthy routine or going to all your yoga classes. Sometimes growth is in the not eating healthy, not sleeping early and not taking care of ourselves. Sometimes it takes reaching a certain point to get to a space where the realisations come tumbling in and the love can flow through you effortlessly so that you can pick yourself up.

So however it goes, just know that you are doing the best you can do! Remind yourself of your courage and strength. Offer the feelings of pride and accomplishment for yourself. Because you are on a great path of healing. One few choose to take. Honour it, don’t judge it and most importantly, allow it.

Lots and lots of Love ❤

Follow the butterflies 🦋

Butterflies, you know the feeling… that fluttery buoyancy within your gut that makes your entire body sing to life! I think everyone has experienced butterflies within themselves at some point in life. The feeling as though your stomach is going to take off. How inspiring, how lovely, and how magical. Feeling butterflies is one of the joys and wanders in the lives we lead. So why not chase after the things that make us feel these butterflies. Find what ticks for us, what sparks us to life and just go after it. Dive right in and immerse yourself in what feels so incredibly good. Because that IS how you create a truly magical life. One filled with excitement, overwhelming joy, love, happiness and laughter. If that is not the dream, I don’t know what is!

So what gives you butterflies? Is it a job, a hobby, is it spending time with yourself, a martial art, meditation? The possibilities are endless. But the idea is to be so hopelessly in love with your life that feeling these butterflies becomes a very regular part of it. And I feel that it all begins with your perspective and attitude towards life. Adopt an attitude of gratitude, allow yourself to be free of judgment of yourself and others and then just live beautifully! Why not??? Just do it. It begins with an intention to do so and as you align your daily actions with this intention, a ripple effect starts and a whole wave of endless possibilities enter your life! How enchanting to live a life as such.

So be YOU. The you that feels good, the you that you are proud of and look up to. In this case, do first and think later, just go for it and see where it leads you. My guess is it leads to into the beauty of life. The side that you see when you lean into love and allow yourself to flow and grow. So follow those damn butterflies until they lead you somewhere super special!

The idea is not to follow a person who gives you butterflies, but follow the feeling. If and when those butterflies cease to exist you know your time with that activity/experience is up. And believe me that is not a bad thing!! It is just life. Not everything or everyone is meant to stay. We have to move on and find out what’s next. How exciting is that? And believe me when I say this, sometimes things don’t work out because there is an even greater opportunity out there for you that you are being guided to! How can you know what’s around the corner. You have to trust. Trust and let go. See where it takes you, Be patient and look forward to the beauty that awaits!

So spread your wings and take a leap of faith! Take ten leaps of faith! Fly around the world… live your dream, make things happen FOR you! If now isn’t the time then when will be? We have to live NOW otherwise we are not living are we? Fly to and from all the wonderful and amazing opportunities, experiences and relationships that are just waiting for you to grab a hold of! But it all starts within you. It starts with the simple action of actually following through with the desire to follow your gut, to let it guide you to greatness! And when you do this, when you exercise this courage and bravery, you are unstoppable. A force of nature, so beautiful and unique.

And as you go down this path, you uncover who you truly are. How the experiences of following the butterflies lead you to the truest version of you, the highest and best you can possibly be! That is simply the best reward there is, to know your true self and just be unapologetically and authentically YOU! To uncover parts of yourself that were hidden, parts of yourself that you never imagined of being within you! So just let it shine through!

I look forward to hearing about how each and everyone one of you follow your own butterflies!

Finding Direction ➢

With life’s ever flowing and winding ways, it can be hard to find consistent direction at times. You are either being pulled in once direction or completely yanked out of another. It can be hard to flow with the change and to adapt to the given circumstances or changes in your environment that you didn’t plan for. But hey, we are resilient beings that were made for this. Through it all, we are adaptable creatures born to survive and then thrive!

At some stage in life I think almost all of us have felt that niggling feeling of being lost. Not knowing where to go, or being somewhere and not knowing or having an end or goal in sight. How long can it go on for and what must we do about it? First ask yourself… “What do I really want?” then the following question “What can I do to get myself there?” And each and every day you create consistent steps in getting there. Baby steps are the best steps to take, so that you can really solidify your change and progress.

Sometimes, as you stray further and further from yourself you can end up very lost. Straying from yourself could look like staying in a job or relationship that is not right for you, or does not allow your true nature to shine through. It almost feels like your living on autopilot mode, when in fact you should be in the driver’s seat of your life. Making conscious decisions for how you want your life to be, and how to get there! Coming back to yourself is direction in itself. It is the going inwards that allows one to get to know themselves so that they can unleash their true and unique authenticity! Finding their passions and following their dreams in order to learn and grow best!

And direction… as mentioned above does not need to be linear. It could be going/looking backward to heal your past, straying from your path in order to learn vital life lessons that would eventually bring you back, or it could be looking up, preparing for the amazing future in store for you! So living with direction does not have to be the rigid straight line that many of us often think of. You can get creative with it and allow yourself a few detours as well. Because detours are obstacle in the right direction. So create your own definition of what direction means to you and how you can find motivation through that.

Direction intermingled with emotion is a great driving force in achieving and going after your dreams. To find what you love, what you dream of… your passion in life and to align you actions, goals and intentions in accordance is a lovely act! One, few of us think to do and often settle for less. Why do we settle for less when we can find true happiness in doing what we love to do? Yes, it may be out of the general norm and a little bit of a risk but would that not be entirely worth it? To seek true and lifelong happiness right down to your roots. Now that, no amount of money can buy.

So allow yourself to be pulled in different directions, see where they all lead you. My guess is that they lead to just where you need to go, on the path to finding true beauty and magic! Trust the guidance and follow the direction!

Going Inwards 🌀

The path to success lies in the path to going within yourself. To heal every inch of yourself and every cell in your being. To learn to love yourself, so that you can truly love others. When you go inwards, you are committing to yourself. You are valuing and respecting yourself enough to take valuable time and investing it in you. And as you start to do that, you reap the rewards! 

Going inwards can look like journalling your thoughts and feelings each day, getting to know yourself, your likes and dislike, the parts of you that you are proud off and the parts of you that you would like to improve on. 

To some going inwards could mean coming out of your comfort zone, putting yourself out there, only to find more of yourself. Challenging yourself, and telling yourself that the discomfort of not doing it so far greater than the discomfort of actually doing it. However, for others it may look like sitting in silence, spending time with yourself to really get to know your true self without the added layers.

Going inwards means acknowledging where you are on your journey, whilst creating space for who you want to become. Working on yourself each and every day. Because instead of committing to a job, you are committing to yourself. And in doing so, you may just attract your dream job! A job that ticks all the boxes, that opens some really wonderful doors for you and a life that you wake up to with a smile each and every day! 

So why not go within? So many of us seek external validation, reassurance, love, happiness. The idea is to find it within ourselves. Learn to validate ourselves. To be accepting of each and every part of ourselves so that if someone else doesn’t like it, we aren’t as knocked down as we would have been. We wouldn’t change ourselves just to appease someone else. We can understand that we are not for everyone and not everyone is for us. To seek to reassure ourselves and love ourselves inside and out, because if you don’t love yourself, are you truly happy and satisfied? True happiness is found from within too. Take the time to befriend yourself. To be with yourself, laugh at your own jokes, read to yourself, dance alone, cook a delicious meal for yourself or even get dressed up for you. Because at the end of the day, no one is going to do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. Of course you will have loved ones and friends, and of course cherish them! But be alright with being by yourself, because that is where your true power lies! To say that I don’t need you in my life, but I would love  to have you in my life, and therefore it works! To be perfectly independent…together! 

So let’s really dive deep within ourselves. Get to know ourselves on a higher level. To figure out the parts of us that still need resolution, the parts that need to be acknowledged and the parts that need to be healed. To become aware is the very first step, and then you can work on either releasing what no longer serves you, or work on bettering yourself, FOR yourself! Because at the end of the day… it is you who you are living with. We spend most of our time with ourselves and so why not prioritise building a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves first? We are our own best guides. Let’s work on being a person who feels good about themselves, excited for each day and in alignment with our true essence. 

I look forward to hearing all your your journey’s to going inwards! Warmth and hugs always 🙂